Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm not sure what else to say except I am hurting. My husband decided he was going to come over and sleep over on Christmas Eve and act like all is well. he tried calling me "Babe". He asked me to take off his socks while he lay on the couch. I said "no, you have been dong it for 7 months, I think you can keep doing it". Then he said , with my son in the room, after I said "no". Thanks nurse Cissy, trying to make me look like a fool.
Then I had the perfect opportunity to go through his cell phone, bittersweet.
I saw sexual texts going to the woman I met the other day. Sick..... It said "bite me " and "or should i say bruse me". I can't believe I bought him christmas gifts. He has been trying to win me back for weeks and more so in the past two since I filed and I find out he is screwing some girl he met at a bar.
God help me please, god help me. Then when I confront my addict husband at 1 am, he starts yelling at me swears and saying "this is why I left. So I flashed him my breasts and said "see these, you won't ever see these again." then he says "come here" OMG. I know I should not have done that but i was so lost and upset.
I guess only an addict would turn the tables on me and blame me for his actions instead of saying sorry.
Well, the last laugh is on him, because I called the number and the girls boyfriend happen to answer and now he knows what is going on and said he will get to the bottom of it. Can't wait to see what happens.
I know I am wrong and acting like a baby and especially b/c I was unfaithful too but WE had reconciled and all that was behind us and his involvement with someone too and then he relapses and leaves me.
I want this hurting to stop. Thanks for listening.
Then I had the perfect opportunity to go through his cell phone, bittersweet.
I saw sexual texts going to the woman I met the other day. Sick..... It said "bite me " and "or should i say bruse me". I can't believe I bought him christmas gifts. He has been trying to win me back for weeks and more so in the past two since I filed and I find out he is screwing some girl he met at a bar.
God help me please, god help me. Then when I confront my addict husband at 1 am, he starts yelling at me swears and saying "this is why I left. So I flashed him my breasts and said "see these, you won't ever see these again." then he says "come here" OMG. I know I should not have done that but i was so lost and upset.
I guess only an addict would turn the tables on me and blame me for his actions instead of saying sorry.
Well, the last laugh is on him, because I called the number and the girls boyfriend happen to answer and now he knows what is going on and said he will get to the bottom of it. Can't wait to see what happens.
I know I am wrong and acting like a baby and especially b/c I was unfaithful too but WE had reconciled and all that was behind us and his involvement with someone too and then he relapses and leaves me.
I want this hurting to stop. Thanks for listening.
I have spent so much time defending my husband for his behaviors over the years b/c of my infedility and I have allowed him to not only get away with doing the same to me and not taking responsibility for it but allowing him to make me responsible for his doing it b/c i did it.
I just wish this feeling of wanting to contact him and make him know how much he has hurt me would go away. It won't help or let me move on.
thank u for you support.
Such a pity you allowed him to stay over, but then as you say maybe this was what you needed a catalyst to move on with your divorce.
Maybe this woman's boyfriend acted so coolly when you told him what was going on, because maybe he had suspicions that something was up and you now gave him evidence to prove his suspicions correct.
Please don't give your husband any more chances. It sounds like you have given him more than enough over the years, but now you need to take care of yourself and do what is best for you and your children. Good luck at staying strong and seeing the divorce through without anymore manipulation from him.
The hardest thing is keeping our emotions in check so not to just go off when things like this surface. But that doesn't mean we need to be stifled on the matter forever. There will be a time where you will be able to rationally and calmly tell him a thing or two about a thing or two. Everything has its place and time, you will get yours.
hang in there.
I can't thank u enough for your taking the time to post your thoughts.
I will hang in there.