Yeah...you did a foolish thing.

Know why? Because you're 19, and haven't lived through enough foolish things to know better. Unfortunately this is how we learn all the life stuff.

I know it's disappointing, but putting our lives, hearts and souls in the hands of another is never a good idea.

Was this an online relationship?

In any case, it was wrong and very immature of him to toy with someone elses life, but if he's around your age I'd also chalk that up to immaturity and lack of experience.

Your hopes have been dashed and it's very disappointing and disillusioning.

I would not be in contact with him to further distort things until you grieve and process this.

Give yourself time and you'll see you dodged a bullet.

Someone up there may just have been saving you from something in the future you're not aware of yet but would not have been good for you

With the job I have I was able to make visits to see him frequently and so has he. We've been on vacation together basically have done everything. Bought a car together and we were in the middle of looking for an apartment. He told me he wasn't ready to get married which i said i was ok with i wanted him to be ready and i wanted to be ready too he was the one who had pushed the wedding and wanted it even sooner. It was just really awful timing...especially because days before i made the trip with all of my belongings i had asked him if this was what he wanted too. And maybe i'm more upset about the way that he ended it i don't know. But no it was not just online.

Hes not grown up enough to be married to anyone.

A MAN knows what he wants, doesn't jerk other people around and doesn't waffle back and forth at the expense of others.

Sounds like he wants the good times, he'd like to be ready, but knows on some level he's not.

Like I said, you dodged a bullet. Doesn't feel like it now, but you could have ended up here in two years with a baby looking at a divorce very easily.

And look I know that I'm young clearly I know that not many 19 year olds decide to get married and start a life. I've been through a lot and he was the person that brought me through it all and helped me become who I am I don't wish him any ill will I just don't have closure for something that meant so much to me. I don't wish to view it as something I'm better off without he has his own issues that he's dealing with. I know I'll be happy again someday but I'll never regret or be sad about the fact that I lost him...

I know he isn't ready and I know he wants the good times it's just hard to grasp that he wants that over me..it just hurts.

I gave too much

I know. We have all gone through it.

Time. We just go through loss and dissapointment and it takes time

Yeah you're right about that. 2 weeks has felt like 6 months

Yes, it's very draining. Give yourself lots of time and be gentle with yourself

Emotions will be like a rollercoaster, so exercise and rest and focusing on your own well being are the best medicine