Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
my first post I'm so sad so hopeless so lost. Been married for almost 17 years have 3 small children. My love is lost, I have lost myself in the daily routine and I have grown to hate the entire situation. Despite it all I stay I stay for our home the life we live in this show we seem to be putting on of the happy family who goes to church every Sunday goes on family vacations, only behind closed doors it is nothing but screaming cursing and I drink to drown it all out to deal or not deal. Do I leave do I stay how do I know what time is better for my children, now or continue with the show to give them a somewhat normal childhood, are our actions damaging them or would leaving do more damage. I want to run away when I go anywhere the thought of going home saddens me but the thought of a broken family saddens me more, I had one myself, all kids want their parents together. who's happiness is more important? I don't even know happiness anymore. how do you leave the only life you have known? what if what is left is worse ;(
Honestly I don't want to influence you in this neither I am anybody to decide on your life choices but here's what I think.Please,Please don't let me cloud your rational thoughts if you thing that whatever choice you took is the right thing to do,do it,don't let me come into your decisions because what's happens next happens to you and your family for either the worst or the best.
Anyways , I do think that this is actually quite damaging family relationship.The children especially,they learn from the elders and if he/she is cursing and have other bad behaviours this might work in the opposite favor where the kids would grow up thinking that the bad behaviours are normal when they aren't.
Yes,parting apart is hard and is bad for the kids but always do think about whats gonna happen in the future.Be predictive.Does parting apart does more harm in the future of the kids or staying more harmful. But before that,try to make things right.For the kids at least!!Do some convincing maybe.Try to fix thing up perhaps and restarting your live as two married individuals.
If it doesn't work try to meet up a specialist in relationships and try to get help.Only in very very dire circumstances,you take that tough choice to leave where its the best for your children and the relationship becomes cold and involves unhealthy habits and other things maybe abuses and etc.
In any decisions I wish you luck!!