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RTL9925 04/11/2008

How do you be the nice guy if you were a push over and not seam like you are turning into an asshole and having them leave as I think that I might have been the "push over"and not have realized it until I read pgambles' post on nice guys

deleted_user 04/11/2008

I used to be a "nice guy". And I thought that if I wasn't a pusyover, people would see me as an asshole. Then I read No More Mr. Nice Guy:

http://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1207947466&sr=8-1

It helped me see that it's okay to stand up for yourself, and what a difference that can make in your life. I don't agree with the whole book, and your mileage may vary. But it has some great points as far as getting rid of the "nice guy" parts and becomming more assertive.

deleted_user 04/11/2008

...um, pushover.

lol

deleted_user 04/11/2008

LOL, sorry but Pasta that was a funny mistake. Freudian slip. I think I have the samething, I have a hard time seeing the difference from being nice and standing up for what is right and my own sanity and rights as a person. I don't like ever coming across Bitchy, it just isn't my nature, but I do second guess myself so much. Good luck.

deleted_user 04/11/2008

It's been 15 months since I was pushed around. It was easy to manipulate me because I wanted a family so badly. Now I don't care about that anymore and let that dream go. Without that achilles heel, I am invulnerable to being someone's whipping boy. I was a good husband and step-father but that is no longer enough.

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