I don't think anyone really knows what to do at first. Shoot, sometimes we can't figure it for longer then that. All you can do is your best everyday to take another step towards a life that will make you happy. There will be many ups and down, it's quite a roller-coaster ride, but as long as you keep getting up and taking steps forward, you should be able to come through it and ready for what is waiting for you.

Many blessings your way and Welcome to the group

OH the first couple of months even six months for me were the worst. I would just sit in the house and stare at teh walls thinking... is this the way my life is gonna be like forever? the answer was NO

None of use knew this journey was going to take place or if we did know we had no idea where to start to begin a new life.

I suggest hanging out with old friends, making new ones, trying new hobbies, anything that you have always wanted to do. Do it and make it your divorce project! I gardening, reorganized my home, joined a gym, ran 5 K's and my list keeps on growing a year later.

you will figure it out my friend

I get what you're saying and feel the same way some days. My advice is to not pressure yourself too much in the early going.

Eventually you can start hanging out more with work people and go out of your way to see others, make yourself more visible. Stop by restaurants and shops where you know people, etc.

It has been my approach with some success even though I feel I have not done enough.
Good luck and sorry for what you're going through.

I highly recommend Meetup groups -- you can likely find some in your area that appeal to your interests. Basically they are groups of people who come together for similar interests, activities, etc. Sports, movies, games, art, and other types of hobbies. Even simply social groups for folks to make friends and have other people to do things with. There are also groups for singles, those who are divorce or widowed, and some based on serious topics. There's really something for everyone and they're a great way to get out there when you don't really know how...

I was scared to death to attend my first Meetup group activity and found that it was the smartest, most fun thing I've done in years. It may be a great way for you to get out there and start being social again, whether your goals are for platonic or romantic relationships.

Little by little, you get used to the idea and then grow into it.

I am in the similar boat, having to reinvent my own life in my early 50s after the end of my 28 year marriage. I have been separated from my ex since July last year, and initially I just took it quietly and allowed myself some time to relax and regroup.
I then started to really look at what I myself enjoy doing, and what I would like to try doing and I am slowly working on making some of these things a reality. I am finding ways to do these things and how they will help me to meet new people and get me out of the house at times.
But I am also learning to enjoy some time on my own, and to be happy with my own company. Finding a peace and happiness in the quiet alone time too. Good luck with the adjustment, and give yourself time and understanding that this is a process and it will have its ups and downs.
I have found support and contact with friends on here invaluable. There is nowhere else that one can find quite the level of empathy that one finds from the amazing people on here.

I am 50 also. I too don't know what to do with myself.
But it's a little different for me. Mine said he didn't want to be married, there was no one else, pushed me out of the house and moved his hahem - girlfriend?- in. Just 2 days later! Yep. But there's more. Waited until I lost my job to do it.
I am bouncing from home to home. No job, no money. At my age, it is less then likely that I 'will' find a job.
I don' thave a clue what to do. But now that it's been 6 months I do know that I am ready to date.
And I can't wait. But will have to. haha, Like YOu, I don't know how to get out there. LOL