Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Hi All,
I know its been a while since I have been on, but here I am again asking for guidance and support, oh and PRAYERS!
Most of you know my story. Most of you know how I feel about the GF. I dont like the word "hate", because Im really not like that, but that is the way I feel about her.
She is smug and snotty, and just thinks she is all that and more.
Well, I heard thru the grapevine last week that she is pregnant. Not two months ago, I had a conversation with the x about how she is desperate to have a baby. I warned him she was going to get pregnant and trap him. Of course, he didnt believe me and told me she wouldnt do that!
He has not told me, and honestly, I dont think he would be the one to tell me. I bet he will let the kids tell me. He does not want to come to me with his tail between his legs telling me I was right!
So, why does this bother me? A couple of reasons. First, he does not need this. He cannot afford another child. He cannot even afford the two we have. This will destroy him, and his family. His parents arent well, and he already owes them and the rest of his brothers and sisters money. Plus, we are Catholic. I know, in this day and age, what does that matter? Well, it does. He has told me time and time again that he does not want any more children and that he will never marry again.
Then that brings me to my children. If they dont get married, what kind of message will this be sending my children? They go to a Catholic school for Petes sake! Also, what will this do to them? I firmly believe once this child is born, she will put her foot down and my children will be sent off in the wind.
(And she has nerve telling me I ruined everyones life!!)
On the other hand, Im shaking my head in disbelief and laughing at the situation. What an ass! I know this is not my problem but I cant help worrying about him and my kids.
I still care about him, and this is just not a good thing. She did it on purpose, I know she did.
Of course, the other reason I hate this is because now she will be even more smug and think she is right. I know better, tho. She will be in the poor house and be miserable soon!
They dont know I know. I figured it out when my little girl came home from daddys and told me the GF quit smoking and drinking! I know she told my daughter so my daughter would come tell me. The GF is like that. I know the GF is DYING to tell me. The only thing I know is this child was not made out of love, it was made out of deciet. (sp)
The best part is that I already know. They dont know I know, but when the truth comes out, I will be prepared for this news.
Lets hope its not true. A child is a beautiful gift from God, I believe this, but not in this situation. Not when a woman does it to trap a man.
Pray please, and send me good mojo. Send me good advice and good karma. Last week when I heard, I was PMSing! NOT GOOD! Emotions were flying all over the place!
Im settling down some, but still need you all.
Thanks
I know its been a while since I have been on, but here I am again asking for guidance and support, oh and PRAYERS!
Most of you know my story. Most of you know how I feel about the GF. I dont like the word "hate", because Im really not like that, but that is the way I feel about her.
She is smug and snotty, and just thinks she is all that and more.
Well, I heard thru the grapevine last week that she is pregnant. Not two months ago, I had a conversation with the x about how she is desperate to have a baby. I warned him she was going to get pregnant and trap him. Of course, he didnt believe me and told me she wouldnt do that!
He has not told me, and honestly, I dont think he would be the one to tell me. I bet he will let the kids tell me. He does not want to come to me with his tail between his legs telling me I was right!
So, why does this bother me? A couple of reasons. First, he does not need this. He cannot afford another child. He cannot even afford the two we have. This will destroy him, and his family. His parents arent well, and he already owes them and the rest of his brothers and sisters money. Plus, we are Catholic. I know, in this day and age, what does that matter? Well, it does. He has told me time and time again that he does not want any more children and that he will never marry again.
Then that brings me to my children. If they dont get married, what kind of message will this be sending my children? They go to a Catholic school for Petes sake! Also, what will this do to them? I firmly believe once this child is born, she will put her foot down and my children will be sent off in the wind.
(And she has nerve telling me I ruined everyones life!!)
On the other hand, Im shaking my head in disbelief and laughing at the situation. What an ass! I know this is not my problem but I cant help worrying about him and my kids.
I still care about him, and this is just not a good thing. She did it on purpose, I know she did.
Of course, the other reason I hate this is because now she will be even more smug and think she is right. I know better, tho. She will be in the poor house and be miserable soon!
They dont know I know. I figured it out when my little girl came home from daddys and told me the GF quit smoking and drinking! I know she told my daughter so my daughter would come tell me. The GF is like that. I know the GF is DYING to tell me. The only thing I know is this child was not made out of love, it was made out of deciet. (sp)
The best part is that I already know. They dont know I know, but when the truth comes out, I will be prepared for this news.
Lets hope its not true. A child is a beautiful gift from God, I believe this, but not in this situation. Not when a woman does it to trap a man.
Pray please, and send me good mojo. Send me good advice and good karma. Last week when I heard, I was PMSing! NOT GOOD! Emotions were flying all over the place!
Im settling down some, but still need you all.
Thanks
I care for you. You are living with your boyfriend which is not acceptable in the Catholic Church and so on...
You are struggling with your ex moving on and whether this is a healthy step for him to be bring another child into this world, it's just not your concern anymore.
I understand. When my ex had his OW and then, another one...it stung but, I had to be realistic. It's his life. If this is damaging to the children's emotional well being, seek counseling for them to help them with the transition. Or...just show them that it is okay.
I'm hoping that your current relationship is still a happy one and if you stress out too much about your ex...it's not healthy for your current one.