There is not formula per se. There is a role from your part to follow and concentrate on yourself. Time goes by and you will gain strength because if you wait to see when you'll stop feeling, you will not progress.

I still have a special place for those that I have fallen in love with in my past. I don't envoke it but, a smell, a place, an image can take me back to that yesteryear when that person touched my life and often, it makes me smile instead of a tug in the heart.

There is no formula. There is only time to help yourself rise above.

I think it depends on your relationship with the person. I was with someone for 3 years, someone who I thought and still think that I'm supposed to be with for the rest of my life, even if right now he doesn't feel the same. We've been broken up for about a year, we don't talk at all, and I still feel everything for him I felt while we were together and after the break up. Regardless of what I do through out my day, and who I may be talking to, none of my feelings have changed, and I still feel now just as much as I did when we first met that he is the only person I'm supposed to be with. It may never go away, but it will get easier to deal with, that I can promise.

That means I wouldn't get over my husband for nine years. No...I don't think that is true. I think it depends on so many factors. How strong the marriage was to begin with, how soon we attempt to move on, our own character, etc. My sister can move from one man to another easily with no time gaps. I could never do that. But I've been separated for five months now and am already finding it getting a little easier. Still some bad days when I miss him but I've been moving on and keeping busy and not wallowing in the regrets and pain. Spent last weekend at motorcycle safety class. I didn't pass the test but I had fun trying. Met some great people and realized my husband didn't take up much of my thoughts. My husband made me suffer enough DURING our marriage. The hell if I'm going to let him to continue to do so now.