Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I'm new to this community. Not sure where to start. I have been divorced for nearly 4 years and can't believe how times flies. He is remarried, I am still not dating seriously. I dated someone right of the bat and shortly after I knew it was a rebound and it ended. I havn't had anything serious since then.
I consider myself to be outgoing and don't have a problem meeting people. I have passed up opporunties to take things to the next level, even when I know it is only temporary and there are no strings attached. I usually tell myself I don't want to feel cheap in the morning, etc,etc - and on the rare occassion that I do have sex I find myself pushing him out the door the next morning - what's up with that? I don't understand why I can't just get proverbial hobby horse (no pun). I have NEVER had a problem with this before. What's up?
Perplexed with myself...
I consider myself to be outgoing and don't have a problem meeting people. I have passed up opporunties to take things to the next level, even when I know it is only temporary and there are no strings attached. I usually tell myself I don't want to feel cheap in the morning, etc,etc - and on the rare occassion that I do have sex I find myself pushing him out the door the next morning - what's up with that? I don't understand why I can't just get proverbial hobby horse (no pun). I have NEVER had a problem with this before. What's up?
Perplexed with myself...
Sometimes it is very hard to trust again. Even if it was something as subtle as verbal abuse. I sense from your post that you having a hard time trusting men. Although it is different for everyone, 4 years is a long time to still feel that way. Maybe some counseling to see if you still have issues related to the divorce.
On the other hand, if you are comfortable with the way things are, then there's no law that says you must be dating some seriously or working on finding your next husband. Plenty of women never remarry - by choice. Although I suspect it must be bothering you if you posted this question. good luck.