I think the longer the marriage the worse it is.

You thought that other person would be there
And you would move thru all your troubles as
Mature adults should be able to.

I also think many times they do it from boredom,
wanting new and different, Afraid they are getting
old and dont feel happy or Fulfilled, discontentment
is running their show. The New will be much better
and more exciting.

I think with my ex it was the highs in a new Relationship
and the feelings it invoked, like when You were newly
married. We all know that wanes With time and not so
intense.

I am sorry for everyone hurt and pain, there is light at the
End of that long dark tunnel called hope. HUGS

Jab27 - I feel EXACTLY the same way. My stbx has been extra nice since this all started. I believe it's out of guilt. He still wants a divorce and is seeing the other woman. I just need him to be gone. We may have to rush the divorce just to free up some money for him t get his own place.

I agree they are scared that their life is over or something because they are approaching 50. So they give up everything. The most selfish thing. I have solace in knowing that they the unfaithful will not ever be happy.

Thiscantbeit - you hit the nail on the head too. It's nice to know what I'm feeling is normal. Still sucks though

JUST, be cautious do not make any emotional
Decisions without a lawyer advise. My lawyer
had My back and thought for me. I was a mess.

This is your financial future stay strong.

Some people can do a mediator/lawyer setup.
Some can do a quick do it yourselfy. Use caution
On all financial and legal paperwork.

My legal divorce decree has power legally, If you
file yourself i dont know if you get a real Decree.

Some use one lawyer, that can get tricky too if
Appealed.

Show your STBX his momma's door thats where
My ex went and also to his GF. HUGS

My stbx is staying with his dad and stepmother right now. They aren't happy with his decisions either and want him to get his own place. I've already spoken to a lawyer. I'll probably have her file. Waiting t speak to a bankruptcy attorney next week though.

Let him worry about his sorry butt
Not your problem. My ex moved out.
I said no dating and stood my ground,
He was a married man.

He moved over to his mommas in a
Big huff, mad that i was at the house.

He could have lived with me but no
Dating. Guess what, he did not choose
Living with me it would have messed
Up his new relationship.

Financially yours should stay at his fathers
Or the with the GF until the divorce. Two
Households will be too much especially with
Bankruptcy upcoming and children.

I am so sorry for all that on top of everything
Else. Sending you a big hug.

My parents are going through the same situation. My mum is trying so hard to fix everything and get passed all the hatred my dads creating but he says he doesnt care anymore. Weve cried and begged infront of him but his hatred and indifference towards us hurts even more. I know that the best solution is to move on but my mum doesnt see it that way. I just pray that her mind will change and she will have the courage to move on.

I'm s sorry eastsun. You shouldn't have to be dealing with any of this. We're trying to keep our kids sheltered as much as possible. I'm glad you're there for your mom though.

I’m glad you reached out for support. When going through a divorce these times are difficult and the feelings you are feeling are normal. I admire your resilience in this situation. It’s understandable you want to be alone right now this is also healthy for you. This gives you time to focus on yourself and your children. I see you are giving yourself time to heal. Thus, I see you have a desire for someone in your life. I’m wondering if you have thought about any coping methods for yourself such as, activities or something that will strengthen you?. Best wishes!