That's the question of the century SK.

Ive resort to online dating services. Havent had any success yet.

Gosh is that the only way we're going to end up meeting people? Through a computer? That's kind of discouraging

I don't have a problem attracting people because I'm just friendly and outgoing and will start a conversation with about anybody. Notice, I said people, not just men.

Believe it or not I am kind of shy. I dont belong to any clubs. Not a regular church goer or bar hopper either. I work with about 99% women also. Where am I suppose to find them? That is why I started going it online. Yes it is risky, BUT if done right, you can meet some nice guys.

Do the things you enjoy doing - just in a social setting. You're into a lot of things - take a class, join a club, volunteer.

Take part in a sports activity. I find that the people I meet in that arena (no pun intended) are the most fun, energetic, motivated, and motivating. The camraderie is great.

check out www.meetup.com (free) or www.match.com

From a guys perspective, we are everywhere. take some of the advice above. and add the following. Join the local chamber of commerce, lots of single guys with businesses. The park is always a great place also. I know I love taking my kids there when I have them. If ya see a cute guy without a ring on don't be afraid to speak first, some of us are just shy.

That's a good question seeking. I've wondered the same thing myself. Let me pass on the advise I recently received. Go out or get together with friends, hit the local stores (watch for admiring stares), dating sites are an option although I haven't heard of much luck there, find something in the area you enjoy (might find someone with the same interests), take advantage of the warm weather and show yourself off a bit. Just a few ideas.

OK.. I like all the advice as I am sure Seeking is too.. But I know that some of it would intimidate me a bit. Being shy is horrible. I go to parties and I clam up and dont know what to say. People mistake that for me being stuck up or bored.

I hate to say it but I'm shy to. I have a couple of drinks to take the edge off, when I get to know someone it's no big deal. Going out with friend's b/c friends have friends. Unfortunatly when your not really trying to find someone there they are. The harder u try, it seems like the harder it is to meet someone if the makes any sense.

It makes a lot of sense Gadad!! I've found that when you stop looking it finds you. Plus, when you spend so much time looking you end up settling for someone you wouldn't normally fall for. That's what gets us into trouble.

It's as simple as walking up and introducing yourself pats. He should respond if interested. I'm a bit shy myself, and I've had to force myself to take that step. Sometimes, the awkwardness can allow us to see it isn't going anywhere. We never know if we don't try.

I've joined an on line site called meet-up.com. It has a bunch of different clubs that you can join. Whatever your interest is, you should be able to find it. People meet up and just have fun. I went to my first dinner group and had a blast. I didn't think I would, but really enjoyed myself.

Heart, its even hard for me to take that first step of introducing myself. WhenI met people online, by the time I get to the point of meeting them I am already comfortable with them so the terrible awkwardness isnt there.
I did try your tactic a few weeks ago. I went to my Alumni dinner. I sat at a table with 14 people I hadnt seen in over 25 years. I tried real hard to be included into conversation. It was hard to feel like I was included. I sat next to the one guy who was single there for our class. I tried to engage small talk asking him what he was doing now, etc etc. He would just answer the questions and that was it.. no reciprical asking from him which told me he wasnt interested ( and to be honest I wasnt even looking ) and the conversation abruptly ended and I continued to sit at the end of the table staring at the silverware. I am not a boring person. I dont have horns growing out of my head or fangs. Its times like this that I just revert back into my wallflower days and just watch all that is going around me.