For my previous relationship, looking back at the end of it before she left, the signs that it probably was doomed were that almost any little thing would turn into a huge argument. And the frequency of arguing which was everyday or multiple times a day. Also when you are your partner just doesn't seem to have any interest or excitement towards the life of the other person. When sex is nonexistent or becomes a dreaded chore, thats a sure sign its pretty much over. When y'all never laugh or have good times together. Just going through the motions pretty much.

Allscrewedup is right--- When there is no interest in the other person or their needs and things they enjoy (in life as well as sex)--- When they don't want to be bothered and are annoyed or short with you when you simply open your mouth.... is a sure sign that anger and resentment is coming to a head and they want to be far away... Going through the motions is a terrible way to try to live. I tried to follow my stbx s lead and do that--- It is a horrible way to live . My thoughts and prayers are with you as you try to figure this out.

Have you tried discussing it with her? Or mentioning counseling? If she is not willing to try... there may be your answer. Hugs.

I don't think you need signs. I think you should trust your instincts. Everything you have observed and seen has made you come to this conclusion. I think sometimes we get obsessed with the details and if we sit still enough...ask yourself how does he/she make me feel most days? And then ask yourself...is this feeling going to be enough for the rest of my life?

Most peoples personalities are pretty fixed. If they want to change it has to be from their own desires to change. No amount of prodding on our part will make this happen.

Sending you light, love, and hope!

Lavender, thank you so much for the insight. I daily strive to trust my instincts. My life right now in my current relationship has brought stress upon my life, the most stress I have ever had. I realize all relationships bring some kind of stress, but this one has put me on medication in the past and I rather not go back to it. I feel the stress is from both sides, not just one or the other.
Thank you everyone else for your comments.
I don’t know where our relationship is going. 50% of the time I feel we are fine, the other 50% of the time, I feel we should divorce and move on with our lives. I always feel I am blamed for something or am always wrong about something, and so I am always apologizing to make up, even if I didn’t do anything wrong. Yet I feel if she does multiple things and doesn’t apologize, I feel like I’m thrown under the bus, and will have to move on with regrets.

Sillyrabbit4u - Anxiety happens when we stop listening to our instincts and intuition. Intuition is not rather just a feeling ...it's actually a decision in which our subconscious takes takes the reigns. After reading your reply, I'm inclined to say you might be in a relationship with someone who might have narcissistic tendencies.

They have an uncanny ability to make us doubt ourselves and the process is slow and as the years add on...we look back and think...what the hell happened to me? I can't make decisions, why am I doubting myself, why is everything my fault.

These types of relationships always end up making us feel like the crazy ones. The partners of these individuals always end up seeking help thinking they are the problems, get medicated, lose their identity, and become too weak to leave because by now the narc has them conditioned and convinced they can't do any better.

I'm not saying this is your scenario...but perhaps you can read up on narcisstic abuse symptoms or relationships.

I would read up on emotional abuse as well. Don't be ashamed of it. It actually is more widespread and accepted in relationships that we realize and recognize.