Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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mysteryman73 09/13/2009

I say when staying is more frightening or depressing than staying.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

I think I understand what you are asking.

For me, it was when I truly felt, in my gut, that I had exhausted every possible means to salvage the relationship. It was when my sense of self was compromised, my heath was compromised. It takes two.

mysteryman73 09/13/2009

sorry I ment to say when staying is more frightening or depressing than leaving.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

Someone said something on here a very long time ago that has stuck with me all this time, and that is this:

"I love you, but I love me more."

When you see that you are compromising your own self, and losing yourself trying to salvage something, then it is done.

mysteryman73 09/13/2009

I love that I will have to remember that

deleted_user 09/13/2009

The fear is strong...and we make it stronger that what it should be. Once it is faced, you will shocked on how much power we let it have. Please take a moment to really evaluate very thoroughly and seek counseling if the depression gets your head too cloudy.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

Yes staying in a relationship with someone who doesn't want it is very unhealthy. I am stuck living with my ex because I can't afford an aprtment for me and my daughter...it is hell because I can't get closure.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

Soon you said what I said. You just switched words around.

I also want to add, I knew it was time to go when the fear of what would lie ahead didn't even matter. You refer to the thought of leaving being frightening or depressing. I have to say that when I had the defining moment that it was over, I did not even give that fear a thought. It was gone.

totallychaotic247 09/13/2009

When you know you don't have anything left for the other person. I knew I had nothing left to give him, I had already given our relationship everything I could, its a two way street.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

for me it was when I truly accepted he wasn't coming back....I still love him - but, differently now...it has taken me many months to realize that my marriage is over...he's been gone 11 months, living with the ow the entire time and it still took me all these months to "get it"....

deleted_user 09/13/2009

when you have done everything you can to work it out and there is nothing left to try. I talked to someone about this just today and she said...she knew it was over when she started to pary to god to please have a car run him over.

deleted_user 09/13/2009

For me it was when I realized how much I had given of myself and got nothing back. How much I sacrificed for someone who just took.
One way street.

I had a friend at the same time who acted as though I had value as a person. Made me look at things completely different.

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