I don't know if this will make you feel better or worse but it's been almost eight months for me. The first three months were the hardest months of my life. I still hurt every day but it's manageable now. I have no choice. We have very little communication, which was difficult for me but ultimately it's better that way. I've finally come to accept that he has moved on and I have too, in my own may. Things will get better. Try to be strong and respect yourself.

I feel the same way right now we were not together as long as you guys almost a year but it felt like we together for years cuz we grew so close to each other so fast she mover out she's said it's a long break but I just feel so empty now I wake up and she's not by my side I miss her so much and it's only the second night idk what to do we have so many memories together every time I think of her I break down every were I go it's like she's there but then she's not I just see her in my head

I wish i can stop thinking in my head of him calling me saying that he wants to work things out cause he misses me, thoughts of him being with someone else, its just making me feel worse. I wish this once that he would really say that he wants to work things out, and I'm the one rejecting him and let him feel how he's making me feel. I sit here and wonder why i wasnt special enough to him that he doesnt miss me and he can go on with no feelings for me at all.

I know it's easy for someone on here to say to you "Oh just hang in there, it'll get better." But I can say that. Anyone on here who has been a DS friend of mine knows what kind of hell I've been through. Nervous breakdown-I need to check myself into a hospital kind of hell. But.. I can say it can and does get better. The problem is, you have to go through hell to get there. Sorry, but that's just the way it is. If you have a personal support system/family, use them. If you don't, use your friends here on DS. Seriously. Lean on anyone who will let you (while keeping yourself safe!). My family is non-existent and mostly awol. But my friends here on DS were/are 90% of the reason I have survived the first year. I guess my point is, no matter how alone you feel, you're not really alone. Remember that.

Johnhascats, I have maybe 2 friends i can talk too, barely, my family doesn't talk to me about anything, i can't tell u how grateful i am to have found daily strength, everyone on here have been so great, it has helped alot. Thank u. Hugs.

It hard i know first hand the terrible feelings. I would glad to message with you to listen. The breakup with my girl friend had cut me so deep Im barely slept for months and since i run into her at work now and then, it all kicks back to life if i see her. That said, i also have made alot of progress by realizing love can flow from me to others and that love which was directed to her can fall upon others and on myself.

There is no specific time frame. We all process grief at our own unique paces. The best thing you can do to get through the day is to practice "self care." Treat yourself like a dear, beloved friend. Take care of your physical needs (rest, food, exercise etc.) The pain is overwhelming. Allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the relationship. Over time, the pain lessens. Take care of you.

Do you have someone to help you with the kids until things start getting better? A nice family member or friend?

If you do try counseling, a good trauma counselor can help. They understand the symptoms that you are describing (very normal given the situation). I also went to my family doctor and told her what happened (sexual betrayal) and how it affected me. She prescribed a very low dose of Zoloft to help take the edge off of my suffering. I'm not a fan of psychotropic meds- but I needed all the help I could get- so that I could go on. The Zoloft did help take the edge off the feeling that a "bomb went off in my life." I will be coming off of it at the end of this month. Took it since November - when I found out about Pervy Man's secret life.

Beachcomber, my mom watches them as much as she can, she's not feeling to well, i went to my dr also and she gave me xanax , i think helps a little, i only take half the pill, sorry to hear about ur situation, im here if u would like to talk, hugs.

The pain is physiological. You bonded with him and the bonds were abruptly broken. There is definite chemistry to what you are going through. It hurts like crazy and it sucks. But over time, the pain will lessen. For now....you just have to get through each day the very best you can. You will come out of this- I know because I have been there.