Yes your pain is fresh and raw and true. It's hard to listen to people say they understand and give it time and you'll feel better. Tough words to hear ad infinitum, without knowing why makes the pain worse. Be gentle and kind to yourself and your kids, their feelings are in a state of shock too I would imagine. If you have other family close draw yourself into a fulfilling life in whatever way you can for now. Funny movies, a good book, music that sets your fancy free to dance and sing. I would say to smudge yourself your children and your home to ward off evil spirits that find your brokenness an invitation to stay longer. Hugs, prayers....namaste

I have no kids. But my dogs miss the jerk that was around for six years. That's bad enough. Every situation is different but I know you are in terrible turmoil. I hope that eventually you start to feel some relief. Know that it's possible to feel like yourself without him. Even if you don't believe it now. Loneliness feels horrible, no doubt about it.

You are grieving and that takes awhile to Process.
Join a breakup group or divorce Care group to help
with the grieving Process. Often therapy at this time
helps a great deal. HUGS

Thank u all so much

i know how you feel if you want to talk more message me

I know what you're going through. I exactly feel like that especially the first six weeks my ex-wife left me. Actually, I'm not even sure if I completely left. But, I realized I can't be in the same black hole all the time because I have people and my three 4-legged kids around me. I took my time to fall apart, cry my heart out, show all my vulnerabilities, and even wish to die. And there are more days in the week I still feel like it's Day 1. I guess, what I'm trying to say is, it's okay to grieve, but keep fighting. Fight for your kids and other people that loves you..that's what I keep doing everyday and everytime since my ex-wife left our home. I'm a walking hallow block, right now. But, I'm still alive and getting an hour of 'normal' life. It's progress. It seems stupid but an hour of normality is a big win. You're not alone and we're all here. Oh and listen to mirandac. It works! I'm still here.

Thank u Alovetolast, im really trying, its only been 4 days and he still is moving his things out, plus he treats me so cold, it makes it hurt even more, like i never meant anything 2 him or like he never loved me, i don't know about therapy, i've tried it once and it just doesn't seem like they r compassionate enough for me, and it makes it hard for me 2 talk to them

It's tough but him moving will make it easier for you to grieve, not easy but can help. I still live with my ex as I can only move in July 1st. The pain I had to go through seeing him and the only conversation I have is when he's mad. We have each other's back here. There are members who constantly reply and give encouragement to all of us here.

I wish i can have u all here with me in person 2 talk 2 24/7, i don't have support and its worse when theres is no one 2 talk 2

CS14 - My ex-wife is like that as well. She was cold and acted like she never loved me. Some people are really good at shutting down their emotions or really cold hearted, either way we it hurts us more than ways than one. Hang in there.

About the therapy, I understand your concern. My therapist are not sympathetic and it actually hurts more talking to her. But she's objective. She gives the none cloudy part of the story about what truly going. I would rather take that than the touchy feely Shrink. I can tell you it really helps.

Also, you can try "Meet Up" to find a Divorce group. I was surprise myself for doing this, but it helps. Everytime you can open up it helps.

It's only been 4 days. Give yourself a couple of months at least.

I understand how you feel! You feel like you're walking in pitch darkness. It's confusing you want to get over it, you want to move on but yet you can't.

The only thing that helps me when I feel like that. Is to journal, talk to friends, talk to family, talk to a support group, and go to therapy. Eventually start setting goals that you want to accomplish. Make them super easy to accomplish. Something I also have done in the past is move into a different house or apartment. Purged myself of things that reminded me of them. I don't know if this is possible for you, but if you can I would consider it. It's hard to be in a room full of memories.

A break-up is a lot like a death. So take your time. Do only what you can, consider what I and other had mentioned, but I think finding emotional support from others would be great...

Give_me_time_please, that's exactly what this feels like, a death, i gave him my heart & soul and he gave up on us & my kids, he didn't even say goodbye to them when he left.

Take a moment and read the posts here. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Granted we are not there in person, but we are a group that is world wide. You may be surprised to replies from us all hours of the night. It is also possible that we are just up in the middle of the night dealing with our own pain, and pop in to vent and help. So keep coming back, and keep posting. feel free to contact me if you want. I will be happy to help the best I can (when I am on). Hugs.

its new grieving, however there is free information that can help, realize you're not alone and there are people like myself that would gladly listen