Time - in time you will lose those feelings...there will be a time you start to lose a ton of respect for him, that is when you will lose that love, but gain a whole lot of respect for yourself, your self worth.

Until then it's ok to be sad and grieve.

Hugs to you!

I agree with Julie...it is a slow death of the love! Glad you are moving on. You deserve so much more!!!

Once you figure this out will you please let me know. I am in the same situation.

I am going to tell my wife that I am filing for divorce. After 3 times cheating I realize she will not change. If I stay, it will only make it easier for her to cheat, having me as a fall back. Even though I need to do this, when I think about what I am going to say and I get very tearful. After 35 years of marriage, It is very tough to do this, but It HAS to be done. As with all things in life that bring us pain, it is only time that matters. Strong feelings take just a little more time. Try NOT to think of, or make pictures in your mind of them "having fun" being happy go lucky or anything like that. I can guarantee you they are missing you BADLY. Don't give in to "begging" or "promises", they are empty and show you that they are hurting too. Never forget what you had to go through to get your divorce, we have a tendency to selectively "remember" only the "good times" and that is what is hurting you now. Remember this, onward and forward, take a step away from them every single day. Do something good for yourself, you deserve it!

When you realize it is time to love and respect yourself more than this dirtbag has treated you.

This might help:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBI4Bh2z9W8

Madea is the word on this situation ;)

You may always have feelings for him on some level, but getting past those and realizing they are more based on the time you spent together, rather than actual "in love" feelings, is the key. Heal yourself and think about what is best for you in the long run. I agree with the others, time will help in that regard. If you realize you don't respect someone any longer, you'll fall out of love with them eventually, or at least you'll love them in a different way.

with time u wil fall outta love but don force it n don b hard on urself allow ur feelings to flow too.......xxx

please tell me when u know,im stuck 2.

It will take time. When you are ready and you have lost all respect for him. When you have put up with one stunt too many of his. One lie too many. One too many of whatever he does to hurt you. That's when you will start to love yourself again.

When you know if you don't get out you will lose the self you used to be. When you start to like the person you are becoming.

Then you will know you did the right thing and start to lose that love you felt for the other person.