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how do i move on :(

lmecklen
lmecklen
My bf of 6 years broke up with me in may and then in june he called me again wanting to hang out. Stupid me i did knowing that he wants to be single and sleep around with a bunch of different girls. He has cheated on me before and i always took him back. What is wrong with me!? We have been hanging out lot and i recently told him he has to either be with me or ve single. Im crushed cause he told me he didnt know what he wants so i told him not to call me anymore. I cant keep going through this pain anymore. How am i going to get past this hurt and realize he is no good?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Looks like you took the first step by telling him not to call you.
angieB1234
angieB1234
Realize that you deserve better than this, and that you have done the right thing by telling him not to call you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How do you get past this? By understanding you deserve BETTER. The sooner you measure people by their actions and leave their words in the garbage, the better off you will be. Don't hang on what people say. Determine value by what they do. This fella has used you repeatedly and you allow him to do so. Now he is back in your life to do it again. How about telling him you have no vacancy here and to move on to the next 'human hotel' in his life? There's nothing to examine here. The guy is trash and he tries to treat you the same way. Get him out of the picture and move on with your life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
we all ask ourselves that exact question.........but why would you want to me with someone that doesn't know if they want you?

remember, don't make someone a priority that makes you an option.....

hugs
deleted_user
deleted_user
it's hard. you have to retrain your brain to think of the future with someone who treats you better and doesn't cheat. there are those folks out there. Get this guy out of your life and work on getting him out of your head. it takes work but you will see..it does wonders. Hollering STOP to a brain stuck on memories does help.
Carm416
Carm416
You will get through the experience one day at a time by coming to the realization that you know what you want and you deserve better.

You took the first step by telling him not to call you anymore. You seem to know what you want. What you want is not someone like him who seems confused.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Great advice here and you have taken the first step by telling him to leave you alone. You need to stick to that, avoid contact. The 6 years and his current behavior has shown you he's not what you want. You deserve better. If he continues to string you along, you can't heal and possibly move on to a better relationship.

Keep reminding yourself he's a cheater, he admits "he didn't know what he wants" but YOU do. Otherwise this cycle will just keep continuing and the pain won't end.