Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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starttoday7 05/23/2017

I was super emotionally and verbally abusive to her for like 2 years solid... Made so many promises I really intended on keeping yet never followed thru. I went to jail for accidentally hitting her kid in the head after exploding and throwing a phone at the wall... So while I was in jail she was able to break up and told me she doesn't know the future and said when she thought about us and a future she thought of nothing... Whe have talked every day since all this happened and at first I did the begging thing for another chance when I truly (God as my witness) want another chance... I have used drugs all my adult years and finally quit meth a year ago tomorrow actually and weed free for 35 days today... I tell her I love he still every day and she never says it back although Im sure she really does love me given the circumstances... I really think it was meant to be for the split but not forever... Like as a man and knowing ne and my true love I know that I'd be lying if I ever got with a woman or if it even came to the point of saying I loved them... I have been with plenty of women... I know when I love and when I do not.... Is she really done forever and just talks to me bc she feels bad and truly doesn't want to see me hurt yet knows she doesn't want to be with me bc of her own unspecified reasons??? Please help me!?!

linny5227 05/23/2017

I think that if you love her and know that you treated her badly, you should let her go. You need to work on yourself and figure out what the main core issues are for you to become a better man for her if you truly love her. You need to change and show her you have changed and not just tell her and beg her to stay. Sometimes, the real way to show someone you love them is to let them go.

I genuinely hope you figure out all of the reasons you act the way you do and give her space. If you can fix yourself first, then you could potentially get her back. But you have to give her space and yourself time to change for good.

starttoday7 05/23/2017

Okay... How do I stop always wanting to talk to her... Like how do I ask her if she knows if it's forever??? I don't want her to think I'm uninterested or that I'm out with other women and whatnot...

linny5227 05/23/2017

I can't fully help you with the no contact thing. I am struggling with that myself from my recent break up. But what you can tell her is that you do love her and respect her decision and will give her the space she needs. Tell her that you need to change and once you do if she is willing to talk then you will always have an open ear. She can't tell you right now if it's forever because shes conflicted. I know, Ive been there. But it doesn't hurt to tell her that you still love her and understand that this is what she needs right now and that you will give her space.

starttoday7 05/23/2017

Omg!!! U rock... So how is it childish for me to ask about our relationship or whatnot... Like I asked her if she wanted me to call her sweet names still or even txt her at all and she said that was a dumb question and that I m being "childish about a relationship" and that I needed to grow up...

linny5227 05/23/2017

She's just upset and thinks its "dumb" you don't get that and sees it as "childish". As long as you tell her that you understand and will leave her be then that is the first step to progress. Let her know she can reach you anytime she needs to but if she doesn't want to talk now you don't have to. :)

sjs777 05/23/2017

as for your question as to the no contact rule - see my journals. the time is now to work on you, for you

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