I am so sorry you are going thru this!! My prayers to you and your son.

Your husband is a bastard prick.

Keep all the texts, esp the ones about your son. Go attorney shopping. There are divorce attorneys who have a reputation for going after a man's balls. You need an attorney like that. I know attorneys take money, but going up against a dickhead like him may be enough to entice someone to offer pro bono or reduced rates to you.

Good luck. I'm cheering for you.

Thank you, I keep waiting for the spinning to stop and to start getting my head straight. Doesn't seem to come. I spoke to a lawyer but I don't think its the one I am looking for.

Hello my angel, you will find the right lawyer to help you and many will be only too glad. You must keep trying and don't give up until you do. Be thankful to be rid of this birdbrain excuse for a man. Your precious son being diagnosed with ADD is nothing unusual as my nephew has the same thing and I grew up with it in me as well. I did not get diagnosed until I became an adult. I graduated from College, etc. but it was not easy and it has affected my life in so many ways that were not good. But today there is a lot more help in the world and there will be for your boy. As for your dope asshole of a husband well thank God you know now that he needs to be history and he will be punished by the law, etc. I that I have no doubt. I am here for you in any way I can help. My prayers are with you as well as I have seen this ignorance before and you do not have to stand for it for a moment. Stay strong because there will be help for you as well as your precious son. God speed. You can write to me anytime and if I can be of some help I will.

Gail13 thank you so much, your words made me cry. I watch my boy and I see nothing wrong with him. so innocent and full of questions I truly do not know how someone can hate any child, I was told to send him to military school. he is in kindergarten he is not a bad child only misunderstood right now.

Your son is 5 years old. Kids that age are really rambunctious and all over the place. I am not sure what your husband expects from a five year old. Does he expect a 5 year old to process things as an adult?

I am the single mom of two autistic children (both teenagers) anyone who wants to be with me has to accept my children as part of the package. I honestly rather go it alone for the rest of my life. My children did not ask for this and I will not allow anyone to punish them for it. They are my loves. I wouldn't trade them for the world.

It appears that this child is not his. Do you receive any support from the father? Research and go after any possible assistance programs that can assist you and your son.

Here if you need a friend:)

yes, he does. He has 4 girls and compares my son to them. He would compare them all the time and since his girls are not active in any way he faulted my son.

I recently found out that when I was not around he would tell him he was a asshole and that he will never amount to nothing because he was not able to contribute to the family. the more I hear now that my son feels "safe" I am appalled that I didn't personally see it sooner.

No my sons father has not been around his entire life, my husband was the one to tell him he will always be there for him and he taught him to talk and walk, he was there since he was born but blames disobedience rather than his way of understanding.

if I knew I would have never let this happen and I would have left but it doesn't stop the hurt.

Hi...boy i am just mind blown at how hateful some people can be!!! I cant fathom it one way or another. These men we married are master manipulators. Its cruel. And what i keep hearing from everyone is we have to remember how their behaviors affect our children. I was such an over protective mama bear with my daughter that i dont know how i allowed us to continually be subjected to the verbal abuse. I guess i was not realizing that it actually was affecting my daughter. I really cant offer up much advice because my emotions are still pretty raw but you hang in there. Feel free to reach out. I find that the best support comes from the ones who know what it feels like. I am here if you need a friend. Lord knows i need friends right now.

lovehurts1978 thank you it means so much to be understood. We don't see the damage verbal abuse or emotional abuse causes until it is to late. Im not really ok either but my son is my world and if I knew It I would of sheltered him from all of it. I feel like such a bad parent.
my child chose to not tell me in fear and I didn't see it. that is my fault and my responsibility to fix.
Its hard to fix yourself and your life and your child all at the same time. that's why im here, a friendly ear while I put myself on hold and hurt silently at home. im here for you too if you need to talk.

I am so sorry to hear you are in the midst of this. My heart understands. ADHD is not a behavioral problem, but a disorder. I raised a son who fought this stereo type for much of his life. I did not want him to feel like a failure nor use his disorder as an excuse. We together searched ways which would give him the best chance at success. Most children with ADHD are hands on learner. So with much work we found those paths and today he is one of the top Automotive Technicians in his work place. I don’t know where you and your husband stand, I believe both of you should seek some education on ADHD and family therapist who can help mend your family. I hear you wanting to protect your son from negative and hurtful comments. Coming from a parent can be even more devasting. So please seek out help so you don’t have to carry this weight yourself. I have some resources if you are at all interested. Prayers and care for you, your son and marriage. Beautyoutofashes54

Not sure how you diagnose a five year old with ADHD. Five year old do not have a long attention span. As far as lawyers go talk to as many as you can. Ask around some one knows some one who has been divorced. Your husband does not be a father to his son he just want to ship him off to military school. Don't know what state you are in but it's important to get custody asap I wish you all the best

lostinutah thank you so much for your concern, my son was in a 5 day a week behavioral and metal health facility. almost like a preschool setting from the time he was 3. My husband is not his Biofather but his chosen father. My son has been through so much in his short 5yrs. his bio was removed from his life after a traumatic abuse issue on his older child (not mine) and my son was witness to the event. I have full custody, all the rights and wrongs of the situation still not not make it any easier.

Wow, sounds like a lot. I'm a Case Manager, and have worked in this field for 9 years. Worked with child as young as 4 and old as 50.

I remember once working as a TSS, and I had a break through with my client age 6 then. Improvements begun. The husband of the wife literally told me one day that I saved his marriage and he was on the line of divorce. I will never condone what he said to your son that was uncalled for and abusive. But I have seen a lot of marriages break up due to mental and behavioral issues of children, teenagers, and adults that have various mental diagnosis and autism. Men are sometimes like children, and they like all of the attention and when too much of it is given elsewhere they don't like it for some reason.

Him up and leaving means that he may have already started talking to another woman because that was too easy for him. It's time to get your son a TSS worker and start to help him develop skills that he will need moving forward. This will also be essential to you moving forward if you desire to be married now or get in the future. Love your children, always support them, provide for them, and protect them but do not forget your husband because one day your children are going to be adults and have a family of their own. You don't want to be living with a stranger because you decided to pay more attention to your child instead of your husband who supposed to be are covering. I will try to look up as much information as I can to see if he was seeing someone else at any point during your marriage.

And your son's father was he married when you guys met?

Spr167 Thank you, My sons father was not married and is not in my sons life.