Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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jackiejolie 12/14/2015

I saw an image with the following quote included:

You deserve honesty, you deserve transparency. You deserve someone who respects you enough to never lie to your heart. You deserve appreciation. You deserve loyalty. You deserve someone who would never abuse your trust. You deserve love. You deserve someone who would still be there for you even when everyone else has walked away. Never settle for less.

Yes, I do agree we deserve this (even though I'm struggling through self esteem issues). But where do you find the hope that this type of person exists??

I see a lot of loving people on this group, and I suppose that is proof in itself that there are like-minded, caring people out there. Make and female alike.

strongandsilent 12/15/2015

I guess we just have to trust and believe. Hope is like that... a glimmer in the darkness. In the meantime, we make ourselves stronger and learn how to grow the happiness within.

sakuraowl 12/15/2015

People here in this group seem to have huge hearts, so they must exist. As for me , I am working on making my life my own and not belonging to anyone else's. You have to be content with who you are before you can be content with anyone else.

paiste7 12/17/2015

I totally agree the quote and I totally agree with sakuraowl. I also agree with strongandsilent. We have to be ourselves 100% and all of the time.

I have come to believe that many relationships do not last because one or both of the persons is not being his/her true self, and is instead trying to be someone they think their partner wants them to be or be like. That can only last so long before the real person comes out. Then the differences arise.

My last relationship ended recently after 8 years, largely because I just was not the person she was wanting me to be and she could not accept me as I totally am. And I could not and would not try to be someone that I am not and never will be. For me to try to be that person would be living a lie and always trying to be someone else and not my natural and genuine self. We have to be able to accept the real person they are and be the real person that we are.

And yes, there are a lot of loving people on this group and there are like-minded, caring people out there with huge hearts, male and female alike.

idontmakeherhapyenuf 12/17/2015

I'm not sure life will always give us what we "deserve" and who's to judge who is truly deserving. I have been blessed so much in my life for which I cannot be so deserving, but to have such a relationship as described in that passage. Although a desperate dream of mine seems to be a blessing I may never have.

duvessa 12/18/2015

I hate to be the person to say this because I loathe to hear it myself, but you have to be that person. This is what "they" tell me...you be that person for yourself first, then you will have that. If you are living from that place, you will attract better people into your life because you will cut the bad ones loose straight away so long as you are adhering to what you wrote above.

jazul 12/18/2015

Maybe it's when we believe that we are deserving of someone who is loving, kind, and dependable that we are readied to find someone who fills those shoes. We have to fill our own first.

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