You need to leave this.. Take it from someone who was in a relationship for almost three years, first relationship/sexual experience and it was emotionally abusive. It will NEVER change, no matter how much he says he will. He will revert back in 2 weeks. Been there, done that. You've got to establish the no contract rule, also purchase any books that will help you move on. It's not easy leaving someone you've been intimate with for the first time, but you deserve better. He's an asshole. He's emotionally abusive and borderline narcissistic. It will only get worse, trust me on this. Like I said, I experienced the same thing and he finally moved out of my place. I'm still sad, but I know it was the best decision for me. I'm here for you if you need me.

You're being abused. Trust your parents. Talk to them. They might not approve but they'll understand. Let them know you want out but he's trying to blackmail you. Trust me, they deal with him for you.

I am so sorry that he is using this against you. This relationship does not appear to have your best interest at heart. After all that’s happened, do you see this man as someone who loves you, or someone who hurts you?
Your body is so very precious to God! I too have made similar mistakes, but when I got the courage to share what was happening, I realized I was not alone. I believe you have that same courage. Sometimes fear keeps us living in the what if? You may be predicting what your parents will do, but I am certain that they will still love you and would not want their daughter in an unsafe environment. You’ve only been seeing him for a couple of months and this is not an expression of love. What would happen if you took a bold step of faith today and told at least one of your parents?

Your young and this won't be the last mistake you make...it's how you handle the mistakes and what you learn from them that's the important part. This guy is morally bankrupt, he has some serious flaws and you need to just be done with him. While having sex at 16 is not ideal, its realistic in this day and age, and your parents are going to find out sooner or later that your not their little girl anymore. So, forget about the "blackmailing" threats, don't let him keep you in this abusive controlling relationship, because if you do then your choosing to mistreat yourself, because you know its wrong. Your parents would rather know your sexually active, than know you stayed in a dangerous, abusive relationship to keep them from knowing.

Relationships are hard, when you add sex to the mix, they get much harder, you'll learn as you grow and go through them how to have healthy ones and how to make sure the guys your with are treating you the way they should. A personal recommendation...don't rush into sex with they guys you date, that's a special thing, that should be kept for the special guy in your life, its not something that should just be given away, because that's what the guy wants.

Take care,
Kat