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his he ill

lovebug72
lovebug72
just found out that my ex could have biobola so that will say why he was rejecting me and mardy and unhappy all the time but has he hurt me 2 much 4 me 2 support his or forgive him could biobola make him act like he dont love me, rejecting me the way he as ? i just dont know only time will tell with the right meds i suppose. x
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bi-Polar you mean?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bi polar is just an excuse. We are all responsible for our behavior. Don't buy into that crap.
lovebug72
lovebug72
yes sorry not good at spelling
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with Faithful. Plus, wouldn't the meds help control that behavior?
Mauszer
Mauszer
Mental illness isn't an excuse. It is an illnes. Undiagnosed, it can play hell with a person's life depending on the severity. Yes, bipolar disorder could have caused him to make choices he wouldn't have if he were healthy, and because people who suffer from mental illness usually have dealt with it their entire life, it is not always easy for them to recognize when it is causing them to do something "wrong."

I am NOT saying that you have to tolerate it. That is your choice. If he is seeking help however, taking his meds, going to counseling, and so on, then it does sound like he sincerely wants to be better. I would say that the answer to the question of whether or not it is being used as a manipulation tactic is whether he is asking you to excuse his behavior or forgive him for it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If he is Bipolar, he will do things that don't seem rational and, yes, possibly sabotage his relationship. However, you just don't "catch" this mental disorder -- it's something that's been with him all along. It would help to do some reading on it.

http://www.nami.org/Template.cfm?Section=By_Illness&Template=/TaggedPage/TaggedPageDisplay.cfm&TPLID=54&ContentID=23037

Once you have a handle on his mental illness, you can have a better idea of what goes on and whether you want to deal with his disorder. It's challenging at the very least. Good luck.
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