If you feel the need send a text to her. You guys still going to work on things or is that door closed?

Closed door. She says she wants to divorce. She says that and she keeps packing more of my stuff up in the house and tells me to come and get it.

I don't see a reason to if she has already moved on or made the decision to divorce...why inflict more pain on yourself?

I'd leave it be if I were you. Just my opinion, but I am the one who wants no contact.

nope wouldnt do that..i completely ignored the fucktard on his birthday and signed papers with him the day i bought the house (2 days later)...hmmm guess i forgot to mention when i saw him

Hey Heavetoo,

I wouldn't do it--just puts more pain on you. Sounds like she's moving on. Do something different, pretend it's YOUR birthday and do something nice for yourself.

Peace and hugs.

He he he....Hurting....does that mean that I should set sail with the Captain again. You know what type of plunder we got into last time ;)

Don't you hate it when you find out that a place where you want to go and hang out to meet people and eat has drug issues. I like a local restaurant/bar in my area but we have been busting the crap out of people that have been buying and selling drugs in and out of that place. Now I can't go there when I am off. Just great!

Buy yourself a present and a beer instead! She doesn't want it, nor would she appreciate it.

For your own sake, Heave, I would say leave it be. But be prepared because in her selfishness she might take offense that you didn't do anything...in which case I say be strong and ignore the text or voicemail she sends you bitching about it.

If I were going to do it I would just text "Birthday" because right now I don't particularly want his next one to be "Happy."

To me, if the door is closed, there's no need for such pleasantries. As I posted earlier in another thread, once the promises are broken, it's just business. I agree with Valeri: buy yourself a present instead. :)