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nicd325
nicd325

2 weeks ago my wife of 4 years woke up and told me she was going to a lawyer for a legal separation. I packed some things and left our home. She claimed to have not been happy for over a year but she had me and everyone else fooled. Yes we had our issues but nothing that you break your vows for without even trying counseling. In the past two weeks things took a turn for the worst I received a separation agreement in the mail from her lawyer which within days she decided she is going to file for divorce anyway. Our families got involved and it got worse. Now she changed the locks on the doors and I'm just waiting to get served with divorce papers. We had a very rough year with our family and other things but i thought we were strong to get through it and I feel she just gave up. I feel like my life has been ripped away from me and I can hardly function. I want this pain to go away....

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Oh I am so sorry. She is moving quite fast! Were the issues severe to her? The breakup pain is not easy especially with her making on decision not at least talking to you on it.
Koko
Koko
I'm right there with you. Having hard time eating sleeping working taking care of kids. Why is it so easy for them to just stop caring?
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Screw her, her loss
Do you have legal representation as far as the house goes ?
Be thankful you didn't have kids with her at least you can get a clean break ..
CrushedDad
CrushedDad
My wife did something similar with an email and has had her foot on the gas the whole time to get this done fast. I am blindsided, hurt angry. Best of luck to you. Get medicated and see a therapist so you can take the edge of your pain and start to process this in a healthy way. Hang in there.
Cheezlos
Cheezlos
My wife if 4 years also filed for divorce very quickly, sold our house all in a period of three months. Now I'm left lonely and depressed at what went wrong. I feel like my life is over.
Kayleen
Kayleen
I’m so sorry you were cut off so suddenly from the woman you loved. I know many of us idealize our wives/husbands as the perfect spouse, and when that view falters, we feel lost and confused. My uncle found himself in a similar situation just last year when he also woke up to his wife speaking of separation.

I know it may seem impossible, but patiently loving your wife is your best bet to show her how much you want your wedding vows to carry their eternal value. Listen to your wife, and if she refuses to talk to you, let her know you are waiting and available.

Rather than leaning on her faults and focusing on her “bad” character for pursuing divorce, direct your attention to your own weaknesses and areas in need of improvement. Show her that you can change, and it would never hurt to offer attendance to a troubled marriage conference of some kind. You can also find a counselor anywhere in the United States here: https://ccn.thedirectorywidget.com/

My uncle approached his delicate marriage as an opportunity to show selfless love for his wife. For quite some time, there was no return, but he persevered. The support of his family, he says, was what carried him through. So I encourage you to find a support system that you can trust. This article also speaks to your situation: http://bit.ly/2gC92Eh
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