Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been married for almost 40 years. I was with my husband since I was 16 years old. He left me 4 weeks ago for a younger woman. I have been crying almost daily. I cannot get past the idea that he loves someone else let alone the skank that he chose.
My adult children are very upset about the breakup too. My son and first daughter won't even talk to him. 3rd daughter will talk to him only to get money. She seems to not be bothered by his indiscretions.
I am sick over this. He is refusing to sign the divorce papers. I think its because he doesn't know for sure what he wants. Do I just send in the papers without his signature or wait a while longer. I am so confused. Need help understanding and suggestions as to what I should do.
My adult children are very upset about the breakup too. My son and first daughter won't even talk to him. 3rd daughter will talk to him only to get money. She seems to not be bothered by his indiscretions.
I am sick over this. He is refusing to sign the divorce papers. I think its because he doesn't know for sure what he wants. Do I just send in the papers without his signature or wait a while longer. I am so confused. Need help understanding and suggestions as to what I should do.
I know you said he refuses to sign the divorce papers. Check with your lawyer to see when he was served the papers as he only has X amount of days to respond (amount of time differs by state). He can refuse to sign but that doesn't stop the divorce proceedings from moving forward.
Sorry you are going through this! Focus on you and your healing! It does no good to obsess over him and the other woman! Hugs to you!!
I'm sorry that you have to go through this after all those years.
My wife left me 8 years ago after 38 years of marriage . So I lknoww the feeling . It's very difficult to say the least. I cried for two years then.....woke and realized that she doesn't care about me anymore.
My x wife met an old college friend and went to see him in another state. Btw- he died a year later.
So what I'm telling you is that....ya you're going to cry and feel like the end of the world is here.....not so.....you will go on.,... So go ahead and cry because we're human a d we have dwellings...ITS OK !!!!!
NOW what you must do is ( like many say here) Get your Lawyer working on your case asap. Get a good therapist... Remember that he left you.....he's not the person that you knew. He already took out money behind your back....you can Not,,,,,NOT trust him why he does or says... They are different people then we knew....you must start taking care of yourself..,.. So go ahead and cry, but do these other things for yourself......YOU STILL HAVE A LIFE.... Again , I'm sorry for you..
Good luck to you.....
BTW- I got remarried 4 years ago to a wonderful person. Its not easy rebuilding ....shaping my life at my age of 69... But, I'm working on it...
God bless you........ Timeman
Step by step......little by little......one day at a time..
Today I cry. My heart is so messed up. I want to let go. I cannot seem to do that. I try everyday to forget him and all I do is remember the good times. The good feelings. I need to remember the bad. The hurt, the lies. Cry, Cry, Cry. I want to stop.
Ellen
As for your retirement fund, that is also community property unless you built it prior to marriage. If you live in a community property state, all assets and liabilities will be divided 50/50.
As much as it hurts and is your emotions swing and confuse you, you will need to find a way to get tough to protect yourself. It isn't easy, but who is looking out for you? You need to do that for yourself.
You may be feeling low self-esteem. I did too. After all, it hurts to be rejected in favor of someone else- and then to get loving words and even a Valentine's day card (in my case). It is like - "I love you, but your just not good enough to be my one and only..."
You have to take care of yourself. No one else will.
Ignore his empty words...that are only used to control you
Get your Legals in order and protect yourself financially...as that is ALL you will have at the end of the day
I am sorry ....mega Hugs to you
I just finished taxes last night. I have an appointment with lawyer to go over the divorce papers again. He is refusing to sign them and I am confused why?
He has been living with girl friend and her 5 kids for 2 months now. I am sick over this. He will come over and tell me he hates it there, but he is still living there. Not sure what he wants from me when he hugs and kisses me and tells me he loves me. No wonder I cry every day.