So, I've been doing pretty well with the whole "separation" thing. I have good days and bad days, but I'm trying hard to go on with my life. My husband and I are still seeing each other and spending time together with our son. In face, we spent all day together last Sunday (went to lunch and a movie, etc). We had a nice time and it seemed almost normal. We talked a little about us and our issues, but I really tried to mainly avoid "heavy" subjects because I just wanted to have a nice time with our son. Then he came by Monday afternoon and we were standing in the kitchen and he blurts out "I want to try to work things out." I almost fell over. I just looked at him for the longest time. He said that he has been doing some serious thinking about everything that I do for him and how much we've been through, and he's not ready to give up. He said that I make him happier than he ever realized and that he misses me more than he would have ever imagined. He wants to go at this slowly and not jump back into things because he said if he does that, we will probably be in the same situation in 6 months. He wants to "date", spend time together, and talk so we can try to work our problems out. By the time he left that evening, it was no longer a matter of "if" he is ever coming home, just a matter of "when". Well, its Friday now and I'm not sure if he really meant to say that or not. He had a bad week since then, which included losing his job (a LONG story). But when I saw him today, he seemed to be holding back yet again. I even went to far as to ask him if he wanted to take back what he said about working things out, and he said "no, why would I want to take that back?" And I told him he seemed to be shutting me out again and he said that he is just stressed out. I don't know what to think. Part of me wants to be happy that he wants to try to work things out, slowly of course, but another part of me is afraid that he will change his mind and I will have to start at ground zero on healing again. I keep telling myself that I just need to continue with exactly what I'm doing, but sometimes it is so hard. Any advice???
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