Okay, let's sit down and really talk here. Your last post stated that you two had BROKEN UP and you said he was already on a dating site.

When you break up, you have no claim to what he does and it's none of your business what he does and it's none of his business what you do.

I told you on the last post the following and even gave you a second post of tools to use and all of it still stands. So exactly what are you doing to help yourself, or are you going to just constantly make yourself miserable by following him on social media?

AsTimeGoesBy
Reply #1 - 01/23/13 11:55am
Please unfriend him and his friends from your Facebook and you unfriend yourself from his Facebook. Then don't look at or get on Facebook or any other sites because it turns out to be very traumatic for you and we have seen it happen here on this board so many times and the hurt is bad.

Then block his texts and calls.That's how you start to heal.

If you are broken up and he's on a dating site, it's time for you to move on too. Don't go on dating sites because you're in pain and it's too soon.

Look in the mirror and say positive things to yourself each day.

AsTimeGoesBy
Reply #2 - 01/23/13 11:56am

Here are some breakup tools:

Limit Your Wallowing
Breakups suck, and its only natural to feel miserable (even if you dont take your feelings to pen and paper). The key is to limit the amount of time you let yourself think about the breakup every day, Sbarra says. Tell yourself, I can think about it for 30 minutes or an hour a day, or I can only think about it when Im at home. But when I leave home and shut the door, I have to shut the door on those feelings, too, he says.

Drawing the line (even if you cross it from time to time) will allow you to process your feelings while still making moving on a priority. (Splitting from your partner isnt only hard emotionally--it can also lead to physical pain. Learn What Happens to Your Body When Youre Heartbroken.)

Ditch the Reminders
See your ex everywhere you look? Get him out of your head by tossing his toothbrush, pictures, and anything else that reminds you of him, says marriage and family therapist Paul Hokemeyer. Research has also shown that staying connected to an ex on Facebook can stunt your breakup recovery, so drop whatever virtual connections you still have. (Remaining Facebook friends in itself isnt a problem, but checking his profile daily sure is. Learn more about Why You Should Unfriend your Ex on Facebook.)

Break a Sweat
Fight the urge for quality time with your couch and get at least some physical activity daily, Hokemeyer says. During a breakup, your brain pumps out cortisol, epinephrine, and other stress hormones that can cause headaches, tense muscles, and tummy troubles. Exercise, however, triggers the release of mood-boosting endorphins, relaxes muscles, and eases digestion to help you feel like yourself. (Stay grounded and reconnect with yourself by trying these Yoga Moves to Help You Get Over Heartache.)

Keep a Gratitude List
Every day, write down five things for which you are grateful. Use the list to ground yourself when you start to get overwhelmed by anger, fear, or sadness, Hokemeyer says. Research shows that writing down what youre thankful for can increase gratitude and feelings of wellbeing.

Give Back
Help others to help yourself. By increasing empathy, which makes you appreciate the good stuff in your own life, volunteering can boost your happiness, he says. Try not to smile when you are getting covered in puppy kisses! Whatever your interests, you can find a way to get your warm and fuzzies on at volunteermatch.org.

Schedule Girls Nights
You and your boyfriend might have broken up, but you arent alone. Spend time with your friends and ask for support when you are feeling down, he says. Besides helping you reengage in other non-couple activities and boost your self-esteem, research shows the simple act of hanging with friends can up your levels of the feel-good hormone oxytocin.

Compliment Yourself
Write yourself notes with positive affirmations like I am perfect the way I am. The physical act of writing them will enable you to shift your emotional state, Hokemeyer says. Put them up in your home, office, and car as constant reminders of how great you arebeau or no beau.

Eat for Your Mood
While a pint of ice cream and buttery popcorn can seem like the perfect post-breakup friends, research shows they can actually drag down your mood through the release of stress hormones, according to a 2012 study published in the International Journal of Obesity. However, foods rich in vitamin D, folate, and omega 3 fatty acids have been shown to promote mental health and cut rates of depression. (Back away from the ice cream and reach for one of these 7 Mood-Boosting Foods

The answer to your question is in your very first sentence- "My on and off bf of 7 years just cheated on me again."

Honestly, why would he be upset? You've taken him back more than once. He knows you'll do it again when he decides he wants to come back. You know why it seems like he doesn't care? Because he doesn't. He has total control over you and the "relationship".

Only you have the power to stop this from continuing. You need to stand on your own right now and look out for the most important person in your life right now- you. If you have not done so, I would like to suggest counseling to see why this pattern keeps repeating in your life. Otherwise, this is one of those times where I would bluntly tell you to run away from that idiot and never look back.

Thank you for your advice, it made me feel 10x better :)

he may feel too bad to talk to you, and on the other side, you need to decide if you want to continue to go through this for even another day just like it has been for 7 years.

You have to start thinking about you and be you, let him be who he is on work towards getting the life you want and deserve.