What exactly makes you leave every time?

Are you leaving because he is emotionally verbally, psychologically, and or physically abusive? If so, abusers are master manipulators. They will wear down your self esteem and make you feel dependant on them. Then they will be sweet and tell you what you want to hear. It is a neverending cycle. I hope this isn't the case, but I wanted to throw this out there, in case. Please focus on why you left and hold on to that,when he tries to sweet talk you. Remember why you left. -Hugs

emotional abuse is really bad and hes so controling i never know with him hes out or cold and everything is always my fault

hot or cold

Sociopath! I have dated a couple guys like that. RUN!! Start over and be happy! This is a vicious cycle and you just keep feeding that beasts ego, it's what keeps him going and doing this to you! Making a clean break is best.

My mom was with someone like that... don't trust him. He's just manipulating you. Try to get away from him as far as you can.

Never let anyone manipulate you or control you. They use your emotions against you to get what the want. Very toxic relationship and onesided. I've been there. Leave for good and go no contact. Counseling, therapy and divorce group, all very helpful. It's abuse and as a man, it has taken me sometime to be able to say yes...I was abused.
Stay strong
-HUGS-

My parents lived that way for many years. We used to beg mom to leave for good. She finally did after we were all grown and out of the house. She had to go no contact to finally get my dad out of her life. She said when she left the last time, it was like the weight of the world lifted off her shoulders. This was almost 20 years ago and my dad still tells people she's coming back. Uh,....no. He still doesn't get it. He believes you are married for life, so it doesn't matter how you treat your mate, they have to put up with it...love is never having to say you're sorry and all that crap.

I am so sorry. Relationships can be so hard. Learning how a healthy one works would be really good for you or you will play the same role again whether in this relationship or another. I, personally, began by going to counseling and reading the book "Boundaries". I am an avid reader but I was so unhealthy in my relationship that I didn't understand until the last of the book. It was then that I realized that the entire book could be summed up in one sentence: People will treat you like you let them. You are responsible for becoming healthy relationally before you can even begin to deal with how to respond to him in a healthy way. Could you afford counseling? If not, I highly suggest you begin reading books to learn.

I'm sure he knows that your emotions are all over the place, he helped them to get there. My guess is that he KNEW, you were really done this time. So, he's acting fast by being sweet, and caring to get you back with him. To then start this whole cycle with you again geesh. I'm going through dealing with my emotions! Everytime you break free, and have grounded yourself, it's like thery're six sense kicks in and they ferl you and try to reel you back in like emotional life draining vampires. Good googly moogly

If you do decide to go back set firm boundaries with him and let him know the consequences of his actions if he does X Y and Z again! You will be okay stay strong! We will be okay

Boy, are you dumb.

THIS TIME IS NOT DIFFERENT.

Unless one or both parties change in a big, emotionally fundamental way, the sucky things will remain. Your job is to figure out why you keep letting him do what he does to you. You also need to figure your role in this toxic relationship. It takes two to make a toxic relationship.

Read "in sheeps clothing" by Dr. George Simon. Just google it.

You are deeply with a very disruptive personality and you need help for your own sanity

I just joined. How are you doing now?