Why aren't you going to celebrate your friends wedding?

If you truly want to be there for their wedding, to celebrate their marriage to each other, to celebrate their happiness, go to the ceremony, congratulate them, then leave.

That way you have honored your friendship graciously. And don't have to stay around for any potential unpleasantness during the reception.

They were more so his friends, and I am in no emotional state to be pleasant and happy around someone else’s special day. I don’t want to be a damper on their special day....it’s all too fresh it’s only been a week since he told me he don’t lvoe me

Well, if the couple are "his" friends and you were invited as an extension of him, by all means, don't go. Go to a day spa and get the full treatment instead...

Sounds like he is being a good friend and putting his own feelings aside. It is not his day, it is his friends day. Time to suck up your feelings and put on a pleasant smile and go, wouldn't you want that from them if the roles were reversed?

Are you really serious with what you just said... my husband just told me less than a week ago that he doesn’t love me anymore Completely blindsided , and you think I am going to be able to show up and be emotionally stable and happy for this couple . And no I wouldn’t want the same if the roles were reversed , I would want them to take care of themselves . And at this point I need to take care of myself . I am not going to attend a wedding with my husband who just said I am leaving and after some of the very awful things he said and lied to me about . You shouldn’t take things for face value, and I don’t need to suck up my feelings for anyone especially if it’s going to hurt me more than I am already hurting . I am not going because I am not going to have a negative sad presence on someone’s wonderful beautiful day . That’s not me . I want the best for that couple and I know they would understand and I would too if the roles were reversed .

100% support you not going! That would be nearly impossible for you to pull off. You're actually being a better friend by not going for the reasons you stated.

My wife just moved out on Monday. I had a family wedding for today and rather than go mope and drink and risk an emotional overload, I talked to my family and said I had to decline. It's also my weekend with my daughters and not one person was anything but supportive. My point... Why would these people be telling you to go? Are they really that far removed from the emotions your going through?

I don't think you can judge your husband for doing what is right for him though. He's in a different place mentally and emotionally than you are. I've played the game of trying to figure out my wife, all I've learned is that it was wasted effort.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's devastating and you're ok to feel betrayed, bitter, crushed anything else you feel. I know this answer sucks, but divorce/separation is brutal. Feel the things you feel, but always remember to love yourself and treat yourself with total empathy. Someday, you'll truly realize that you have more than enough love for yourself and at that point you might actually see this whole shitty time as a gift. Hang in there!

I really appreciate your words, and Your right I shouldn’t judge him since he is absolutely in a different mental state than myself . But I feel so hurt I guess judging or trying to make sense of it all is where my mind goes automatically but like u said it all seems to be wasted effort because I am
Stuck with Zero answers. I also feel for your pain and loss, i think it’s not easy to be the person that was left versus the one who decided to leave. I know it will take time but right now it’s so fresh so raw, and I am trying to pick up the pieces to make myself feel whole again and like you said love myself again for me separate from another human being . I feel often in relationships some of us, as I know I do myself, you become one with your partner and at times get lost in that and forget who you truly are yourself as a human being on your own without having a partner by your side. With that being said for 5 years all I have known was what we had, and now on my own I am trying to remember who I am without him by my side any longer....