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happywannab 11/10/2008

Ok I'm sure you all know I need "help" by now but today is really hard. Been a tough couple of weeks. I am at work, a job which I am leaving in two weeks and I am cleaning out my emails. OMG I am having such a hard time deleating the last three years of my life even though I wish I could just delete them (the years I mean). There are emails about my divorce from Ron and then all the beautiful touching words of encouragement and love from the asshole Tony that just stabbed me again this weekend. I know I am leaving one life behind and should be greatful for my new job, new start and hopefully new people to come but I am crying andying here at my desk! Help!! Why does it still hurt so damn bad!? Reaching for the meds now! Hope I don't fall asleep!

MsBlank1 11/10/2008

(((hugs)))) change is hard.You are leaving your past behind along with the dream.
With every delete think of it as a new start.
Change is necessary as hard as it is...I know change is hard for me....and I thought it was becuz I'm older.

deleted_user 11/10/2008

(((((HUGS))))) I haven't even looked at all the e-mails from during the divorce, I think I'd cry too.....I have them in a home account....
Just think of the new life and new job like start as a positive.....it'll be good! You get to start over, and do things different this time.....
Try and stay awake!!!!!

happywannab 11/10/2008

Thanks Deb, I am "older" too as you know. It just sucks to relive it all via email knowing how much of it was lies!

deleted_user 11/10/2008

Sorry you're so down today. Change is fun and exciting!!!! Be positive and look forward to the new job and opportunities.

deleted_user 11/10/2008

((((bighugs))) Change is never really easy- but today is a good day for it.
Keep looking ahead and imagining all the wonderful possibilities to come.

happywannab 11/10/2008

I should be thrilled. New job in this economy and they gave me a big sign on bonus! OK now I feel guilty for not appreciating. Damn I can't win!

deleted_user 11/10/2008

I too sit sometimes, and re-read the old emails, but its like stabbing myself in the heart! Can you back the emails onto a CD, so you still have them IF you need/want them?

The only constant in life, is change.

Good luck with the new job, and new beginnings.

HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZZZ

deleted_user 11/10/2008

Delete 'em and look forward to the new. That's the past.

deleted_user 11/10/2008

Delete 'em and look forward to the new. That's the past.

deleted_user 11/10/2008

You go girl!!!! You are worth it!!!

1toughcookie 11/10/2008

Change is hard but often needed. Try to look for the positives. (((HUGS)))

deleted_user 11/10/2008

I can't say it better than deb so I'll just say ditto.

But your feelings aren't wrong, so go ahead and let them happen.

deleted_user 11/10/2008

Not too long ago, I was triggered by one of those emails. I think I journaled that one because it rocked my world. It was my ex's first love letter by email. I journaled and deleted it. Lately, I have been triggered by another memory and I'm working on journaling it but can't seem to gather so much depth into words and today, it's the 15th year anniversary of that memory.

Sweet friend, it's okay to have these emotions...truly because it is part of our history and that becomes our past. Journal it and delete them and you have such a promising new endeavor around the corner. Don't take any of the baggage there....just your magnetic personality and your freed perspective. HUGS MY FRIEND....I'll let you kiss me....

deleted_user 11/10/2008

there is nothing wrong with the tears, saying goodbye to the past. cry, we would under normal circumstances leaving a job where we made friends and such. change is very hard especially the older we get. but you do have a wonderful new life to look forward to. take some time for yourself, you deserve it.

happywannab 11/10/2008

Thank you all. I don't know if it is all of your words or just the meds kicking in but... I am hitting delete and smiling, not even reading the damn emails. Most were lies anyways as it turned out!

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