I am so sorry to hear that this happened. You are taking the right steps with therapy and group, reach out to friends and family also for help if possible. You are already taking the right steps, time may be the only thing to help now. I am going through a separation also feel free to msg for support, be strong, it will be a long road but it will pass.

I am very sorry for the situation he has put you both into. Please be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to feel how you feel right now. If he's not willing to fix the marriage, the best thing you can do is focus on the needs of you and your son. Sending big hugs your way. I hope you can find some healing.

Hugs my friend. It is a horrible road to travel. One thing I have learned that if his lips are moving he is lying. (Cowgirl Kathi favourite line) He must has checked out a while ago. You are in shock right now, You need to focus on you and your son. Hang on for the emotional roller coaster ride of a lifetime. Be gentle with yourself, cry all you want. I cried so much that I was sure the tissue factories could not keep up production. Don't be surprised that there could be someone waiting in the background. Do you really want him back or are you afraid of being alone. Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Learn to be your own best friend and take as much as me time as you need. Gee, I have been separated/divorced for almost 13 years wow and I am still taking me time and loving it now. I am here if you need to vent, hugs. PS I was 57 when I threw in the towel and now I am 70 and happy as a clam.

Thank you for sharing, I agree, he has checked out, and that is no fault of your own.
Time will heal you, as long as you do the work to heal yourself.
I would suggest that you journal out your days,
Read how others on here have survived and been able to live a blessed loving life.

Thank you all for the kind words. My husband pretend everything was normal even talked about vacation dates the night before and took me to dinner. He gave me a kiss that morning said have a great day I love
He picked up my prescription for me. I just don’t get it how you do that to someone you said all those things to

Wow- that really is pretty awful, I’m so sorry for you. I’m going through something similar in that it isn’t my decision- and nothing I say or do seems to matter to my wife- so I can relate. I’m definitely angry- and confused- and angry again- and sad... and I can tell you that one thing I’ve read and been told is that is ok... those are real feelings- and there yours! Recognize that this is a shitty situation- and that your hurting, but also that you didn’t create or cause it! You can hurt in bad situations- it’s ok to hurt... and then it’s also ok to start to pick yourself up and be true to the good person that you are too. Some days will be better than others- sometimes it’s moment to moment- but I think you’re probably pretty strong when you need to be too! Thanks for being strong here and telling your story. You can reach out to me anytime- I know I’m going to need help to get through this too. Treat yourself well- your worth it!

I am so sorry. I had a friend who came home from a trip that his wife arranged for him to find her moved out. They had been having problems but he claims he was totally blindsided. I think this shows a certain lack of character in the one who sneaks off like this. Or she felt he was so controlling that she had to sneak off. What I hear from your posting is a desire to have your husband back, but I wonder if who you thought your husband was is not who he really is. The person you want back sounds like a scumbag, wouldn't you tell me the same if my husband had lied to me and been false? Sometimes we don't see who people are for how they really are. You have been betrayed and this is very hard to work ourselves around emotionally. I might suggest you look up the personality disorders of narcissist and sociopath. Whatever you want him to be is not who he is. I am so sorry, you deserve better. You might try journaling every night to release your feelings. Keep walking the path to healing. Give it a year or so and I think you will then know you actually got saved by his selfish act. A lifetime of him being false and stealing your confidence is a long long time. Do not blame yourself for the things you didn't do here. You can't make him change but you can work on yourself to get to a better place of self love and acceptance. Because you are worth it.