Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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JaniceHayes 03/15/2013

When oh when, does it get easier? This is hard, I think Friday's are hard. I feel so idle. I joined a dating website, I have gotten a lot smiles, a few email conversations but, nothing has panned out. Maybe it is too soon but,I just want to go out and have a little fun. I cannot move into new apartment until I come up with first and last, which I am waiting on my tax money to get here. Still looking for a new job, still trying to make money at part time job. Palm Sunday and Easter are coming up and I am used to spending those days with my ex, his son, whom I miss greatly and his Mom, we would attend Church and it hurts that I can no longer do that with them. I just want something positive to look forward too. Feeling cranky Today... So hurt, still confused at all of this..

deleted_user 03/15/2013

How about attending another church? There are great, supportive friends to be made there. I think it's too soon for you to be dating. It's a though world out there, and if you can't handle rejection it will put you even lower than you are now. Focus on doing things for yourself that don't involve anyone else's approval or participation. These days suck. I've had a lot of them. Just ride it out. It WILL get better.

JaniceHayes 03/15/2013

Thanks, Cheryt... I have been attending our sister Church at another location, it is a mega Church so, do not know to many people there. I guess I am not ready to date... GOD, my therapist and a girlfriend are saying it is too soon. I have been going to the gym and that has been helping. I am getting my hair done tongiht to help me feel better. I am usually lazy with my hair but, when people see it down, they see another side of me and they love it. My girlfriends have been great, just trying not to constantly talk there ears off about ex...

deleted_user 03/15/2013

Just give yourself some time. It does take time. I find getting out in nature, even just going for a walk, renews me and brightens my perspective. This time of years sucks anyway. All gray. Hang in there.

seeingthedawn 03/15/2013

I would definitely look at a new church. Its a great opportunity to meet a new expanded faith family. I cant imagine trying a dating site. Im not sure where you are at emotionally, but there is no way I could offer someone the attention or commitment that they might be looking for. Here is a really good web site that has groups and clubs for people that are looking to expand their social circles without the complication or pressure of adding a relationship to the mix. www.meetup.com

ultraviolet818 03/15/2013

I hear you. I'm feeling down today, too. Just lonely and frustrated that I can do nothing to make a good person come into my life. I have started new hobbies, joined a gym, revisted old hobbies and talk with friends, but it doesn't seem to make me feel much better for long. The weekends are the worst, I think, because you see lots of people going out and stuff. Ugh. There's got to be a better and faster way to get through this. Anyone know it?

bff524 03/15/2013

Yes, Friday nights are the worst!!!! I wish I could fast forward through the weekend! Hang in here , Girl. It has to get better, right?

JaniceHayes 03/16/2013

Thanks for the website, I will look into it. I am attending another Church which is the sister church in a different location. I hate to give up my church as I apart of a ministry, I volunteer my time too once a month on the administrative side. I know I am not ready to date, I feel it, I just want to have a little fun. I cannot wait for the day we post, we are over it and life is great.... Thanks guys, one day at a time.

deleted_user 03/16/2013

I had to find a new church and am enjoying it even much better than the last but it is hard to get to know people. I started first of year and have just started signing up for some volunteer activites and have meet a few really nice people.

I strongly encourage meetup.com There is a new group of 40+++ social singles that is starting in my area and I am going to meet the lady who has set it up next week and help plan some activities.

It's hard, I set a goal for myself....to get out of my comfort zone. I do not like large social settings, but I will make myself do this and I will probably have a good time.

I would suggest not dating yet either. You have to work on healing first and rediscovering who you are without him. ((((hugs)))))

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