Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I think it's time DS and I practice NC.
I thought about this while writing a paper on kids with disabilities learning in an environment with kids without disabilities. If you put kids with autism in a room together they only learn how other kids with autism act. But if you put a kid with autism in a class full of kids without a disability he learns so much more just from watching and interacting with those kids.
I had the most amazing day today. I started it off with talking to my stbx on the phone for over an hour. It was so nice to be able to talk about everything that happened without either of us blaming each other. It turns out I married a pretty decent guy.
Then I came on here and replied to a post about ex's wanting to be friends. 2 of my most treasured friends are my first 2 boyfriends from 30 years ago. I imagine my husband and I will find our way to a new friendship after all is said and done. I am a positive person and all my friends and family are pretty much the same.
I'm looking forward to Valentines day. I was thinking that it might be nice to send a few people on here that I have connected with an e-card or maybe make up something on my own to send them. Turns out people here are dreading it.
I got support here when I needed it and for that I will be forever grateful. I couldn't imagine making it through a few of those nights I had months ago without having somewhere to go to vent when I couldn't sleep. I stuck around even when I didn't need the support to lend my support to those who were having sleepless nights themselves.
Now I've come to a point where I feel good until I come here and then it brings me down to see all the focus on the negative all day every day. I can feel myself learning how to focus on the negative here. I have to go join the other class.
I wish you all peace and happiness!
Marilyn
I thought about this while writing a paper on kids with disabilities learning in an environment with kids without disabilities. If you put kids with autism in a room together they only learn how other kids with autism act. But if you put a kid with autism in a class full of kids without a disability he learns so much more just from watching and interacting with those kids.
I had the most amazing day today. I started it off with talking to my stbx on the phone for over an hour. It was so nice to be able to talk about everything that happened without either of us blaming each other. It turns out I married a pretty decent guy.
Then I came on here and replied to a post about ex's wanting to be friends. 2 of my most treasured friends are my first 2 boyfriends from 30 years ago. I imagine my husband and I will find our way to a new friendship after all is said and done. I am a positive person and all my friends and family are pretty much the same.
I'm looking forward to Valentines day. I was thinking that it might be nice to send a few people on here that I have connected with an e-card or maybe make up something on my own to send them. Turns out people here are dreading it.
I got support here when I needed it and for that I will be forever grateful. I couldn't imagine making it through a few of those nights I had months ago without having somewhere to go to vent when I couldn't sleep. I stuck around even when I didn't need the support to lend my support to those who were having sleepless nights themselves.
Now I've come to a point where I feel good until I come here and then it brings me down to see all the focus on the negative all day every day. I can feel myself learning how to focus on the negative here. I have to go join the other class.
I wish you all peace and happiness!
Marilyn
Personally I see so much hope and good and positive on here day after day after day.....but that's just me. And I've learned not to be appologetic about myself, and neither should you.
We...ourselves, are the only people who will ever have the ability to be our own best advacates. Taking ownership for our choices (yeah I wanted to fit into that bathing suit, but I chose to eat that candy back in Febuary........or I wanted a happy marriage, but I married him even though I saw red flags....) is what it's all about to me.
If friendship with your ex works for you....than that's fine. It would never work for me, and that's fine too.
Healing Hugs,
I wish you the best in your life,
Patti
This place has a two-fold effect on me. I find sometimes my energy is zapped. See for me, when others are hurting and I try to support them, I transfer some of my energy to them as it is what they need and what I have to give.
There are other times, when I come on here and I have found myself getting down on me for one reason or another. It makes me really take a look at myself or life and see what it is I am still missing or need to "fix" for the issues I sometimes face here to have such an effect on me.
Either way, I need to recharge and refocus.. I just make sure though to try to decipher between the two and take the steps I need to regain my energy and/or myself and not push down what needs to come up and out.
You know where to find me if you need me.
I wish you all the best my dear friend.
*bear hug*
I think I am a fairly optimistic person but you have me beat, you always did. Through the times we've corresponded your attitude has rubbed off on me some. I do appreciate that !
One of my favorites, you are :)