Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have a lot on my plate. The pretrial, yes, pretrial court date just to see a judge to divide the assets will be Feb 15th, 2011, that does not include an actual trial date. Our divorce was finalized on May 25th, 2010. I still have to decide on the custody, which I want kids full time, but probably won't. I can't go another 6 months in the same house with that man. I need to get out, so ultimately I need to just give in and accept a proposal that we need to come up with. I feel like a failure and I know my back is against the wall and I am on the losing end of the stick. He has said so much, that Ican't write here, about what child support payments based on what he gets in visitation. I am just sick and tired. I look a mess. I need to figure it out. Anyone else in the same boat? I don't know even what to do anymore, and thought about giving my kids to him. I am at the bottom of the barrel, finally, I didn't think I could hit rock bottom but it seems I am close to it or right there.
Weakness, even momentary, will work against you. Please be strong for you and your kids. The end is in sight and this can shape your life. Don't just "give in".
Lynne
I've said it before and I'll say it again....you eat an elephant one bite at a time. Prioritize and make small bites.
Find a place to live
accomplish that then:
Find what schools are in that district
Then go from there. Sometimes details work on their own. And I have to warn you that giving custody over to him won't mean anything in the end. It just makes him the primary caregiver. He will most likely expect you to do a lot of stuff for and with the kids, so don't even consider it being a good option.
For me it took hitting rock bottom. I had to hit and climb back up. But I have a very supportive network of family and friends. Just have alot of pride too.
It seems really really hard right now and thats because it is. You will get through this. Keep telling yourself that. When you look in the mirror even if its just to brush your teeth say I can do this. I will over come what is ahead of me. I have faith in you.
Don't feel bad and im pretty sure your parenting is better then you think. Just take things one day at a time.