Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was in a long distance relationship for 2+ years. When we have disagreements, generally it's due to not having enough time together, we would naturally be upset and once we cooled off, we would talk things out. This last time, he decided to completely block access to him. He blocked my emails, texts, and calls. I thought maybe he needed more time to cool off... maybe a day or two, a week at most. After 3 weeks with attempts to connect, I had to walk away to keep my sanity. I found this article and thought how true...
No matter how deeply he said he loved you when you were together, the truth of the matter is that he does not respect you, and he never did. A half decent man would not let someone he once cared about walk around with a heavy heart and a troubled mind. A man who truly valued you would make sure that you understood everything there is to be understood before turning his back on you for the very last time.
It's the worst feeling, not having closure.
Has anyone out there ended a relationship without communicating that he/she wanted it over? And if yes, why would you do such a thing?
This is great in theory. But what happens when the man explains over and over the reasons for his desire to end the relationship and the woman refuses to accept his decision.
If he had "communicated that he wanted it over", would you have accepted his decision?
Perhaps your ex has had this conversation with you during the previous disagreements. And perhaps he realized that regardless of all the "talking things out", things didn't get better. It perhaps was a "lather, rinse, repeat" cycle. You have the same disagreement (not having time together), you take a break, you talk and get back together, then - BAM - the cycle repeats.
If you are looking for "closure", you aren't going to get it from your ex. Others don't grant closure. Closure comes from you, when you accept what is done is done. When you no longer question the "coulda, shoulda, wouldas" and look reality directly in the eyes. That is when you will find closure.