People who are meant to be together, stay together. Love is anything but a feeling. It's the glue that holds you together when times are tough. It doesn't sound like there was anything here. Love takes time and work. You can fall for someone at first sight. But only time and experience dictates whether those feelings were of any merit or not. The answer to your dilemma IS easy to see. It's what you DON'T SEE in front of you that tells you to move on. She's not there. Your picking up pieces from something that never was meant to be. Throw that to the wayside and move on.

Thank you all for your positive comments and support
It feels like the tears will never stop and I have learned to not judge myself for crying.
Most people I know just want me to be over it all but as you all said it seems to take time....looking forward to the day I can smile and laugh and really feel my heart lighter.

I want to thank you for your support, I ended up texting her, and just talking to her, as two people normally would, and oddly enough it eased that nagging feeling that was all throughout my mind. But none the less, I am not over her yet...

I am with you on this, going through the same. I believe there is not such thing as getting over someone, as my friends tell me, just move on. It is not that easy, it is a process.
I think that when relationships start they go through an evolution and starting the new life without them is the same, an evolution, grief process, loss of one life and the start of the new. Everyone goes through it differently, same cycle, but maybe in a different pattern of feelings/emotions and different length of time. Be patient with yourself.
Remember accepting it is over does not mean you forget they were ever a part of your life. There is hope, it just takes time.

@drsaint - how DARE you come on here and prey on the vulnerable with your nonsense!!

Peddle your bullshit snake oil elsewhere

Do not email that "drsaint" for starters. Hopefully he/she/it was reported.

Try not to contact her. It only sets you back. I know how bad it hurts missing someone but if it was meant to be, it would be. I'm not trying to be harsh as it's my reality too. Take some of the advice you got, take good care of yourself and heal. It will get better.

Misery loves company. If I had written my post it would look just like yours. I have been with my girl for 2 years other than she broke up with me in the spring of 2011 for 4 months. She came back and told me that she had made a mistake in ending it and we ended up getting back together around August of 2011. We were engaged Christmas Eve last year. Things started to go down hill after a few months when she assumed that she could talk to me like a dog and I was suppose to tolerate it. I told her that I would never talk to her in that manner and if I did I knew she would not tolerate it. Long story short, I ended up getting my ring back and we kept seeing each other for a few months. About a month ago we completely ended it. I know that I can never live with her and she knows the same. Problem is, I still love her and think about her 24/7 I so much want to turn this off in my head, but the harder I try the worse it gets. This crap is the last thing on my mind when I lay down at night and it is waiting on me when I open my eyes in the morning. I am so tired of it and want it just to stop. I preach to myself all day long that it is over for good and I need to put it down and move on. I guess it is just not possible to "will" someone out of your mind.

I know the feeling as well and I have been searching for the same answer. People are consttantly telling me you deserve better, it will get better in time, there are other fish in the sea. I know they are trying to help but I want to choke them when they say that. mainly because they have never experienced it. I would not wish this on my worse enemy. I never realized how strong love was until I lost it.

doeslifegoon, I just gave pretty much the advice of someone you might want to choke. Difference is I think most of us saying it believe it as much as we can. I know that's true for me. I'm hurting right now, will be later tonight and likely much of tomorrow too. I know I have to let time pass and just keep living. I have no other choice. Sometimes things are just broken and we must fix ourselves. It sucks!! But I have hope for better days.

jmandy I know what your saying. It just gets old. I know time is the only thing that will heal it. The worst thing is I have to see her cause of the kids and people always come to me telling me what they saw my ex doing, I don't want to hear it and that is what I tell them. The key is TIME.

doeslifegoon, that is hard. I don't have kids with my ex and I don't have to see him. In fact I avoid anywhere I know he could be. I think you're right about time. Time helps. It could be a little time or a lot of time but the tides will turn in your favor someday. They will for us all.