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HeaveToo 10/23/2008

Well, Called the girl that I have been dating today. She told me that we have been out three times and been talking for over a month and she can't find anything there that makes her want to get into a relationship with me. She likes me as a friend and said that I am a great guy, she just doesn't feel a spark.

Crap..I am so fustrated. False hopes and mirrages is what the dating world seems that it is like.

Time to re-group and figure out what I am going to do next.

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Ahhh, Heave, I am so sorry that this didn't work out, however, I am very happy that you did not get to emotionally involved! There will be one... You know that!

Hugs!

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Oh Sorry Heave, I know you were hoping this would turn out differently. Don't rush it...you will find someone that appreciates you, just takes time.......((hugs)))

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Oh I am sorry. Dating is such a scary world to enter. You just put yourself out there and hope for the best. Big hugs.

deleted_user 10/23/2008

It's okay better to know now than years down the road that they don't want a relationship. You will find someone just right when you least suspect it.

HeaveToo 10/23/2008

Time is all I have. I thought that I was making slow progress. Apparently I wasn't. No worries, I did everything right and I was a good guy. At least she is a friend but I wanted more. Story of my life...all women just want to be friends with me (must have that gene).

deleted_user 10/23/2008

I would think the friend gene would be great. Good luck!

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Heave, I wouldn't even worry about it, I can tell your a really good guy, the right one will come just be yourself, when the time is right it will happen, just be glad this didn't go on for along period of time. How did you leave it with her?

HeaveToo 10/23/2008

LOL...I changed the subject after saying friends were fine...few minutes later told her I had to run because I was doing laundry and I have a spot on one of my uniforms! Not the most tact but I didn't totally bash it.

Ah, To Hell with it all....Gimme a beer. I wish I had rum!

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Heave - I'm so sorry. You seem like such a kind, thoughtful guy. I'm sure the person you are meant to be with is also looking for you. When you least expect it...

HeaveToo 10/23/2008

At this point I am seriously wondering if I am meant to be alone. What is the point to the whole thing. I always seem to strike out no matter what I do right. I know that I did a good job with this one and I was a perfect gentilman.

Some ships are meant to sail without a crew. Maybe this is my fate too.

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Sorry about that Heave! It can suck that's for sure. At least she was upfront before you got too invested.

The right one is out there...somewhere...

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Aw I'm sorry. At least she was honest with you. Keep looking and dating.

deleted_user 10/23/2008

I doubt that Heave, your only 31 years old, you are so young, just enjoy yourself right now, you have plenty of time to find someone, you are just getting out of a marriage, heal from that, you seem like you are happy with yourself, don't even worry about it.

HeaveToo 10/23/2008

LOL...Damn I should have known something was going to happen...Everyone says POF isn't good for finding someone! LOL

deleted_user 10/23/2008

Heave, come on, this is really just your first relationship since your divorce. Give it time hon, don't be a defeatist, it will happen when the time is right and when you least expect it, really. ((hugs))

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