"Things" will continue to hit you, different day, different response. It is not an easy journey. Good luck to you

That was one of the hardest things for me also Patton. I still have to have pillows on the bed so that It doesn't seem so big. But if that is the one thing that I miss and the rest of my life is wonderful, I will take it.. You are going to go through all those stages of grief and it sounds like you are getting ready to go to the next stage.. Just keep working on you and not trying not to worry about her.. You are the only one that you have any control over.. Prayers sent for peace and comfort. The road is going to be rough for a while but it will get better.. Hugs to you, Kimmee

I realize "things" all the time, it's not new things but still when they hit you it gets nasty. It's all of the things i realized that I havn't worked on in my mind. You get used to this more and more and in the end you just don't care. i juat want my life to be "normal" and she can go on wiht her pathetic new life.

kymberly is right, it will continue on and off, different times, different emotions, but you will get through each and every one of them. keep coming here, although it's scary, you'll make it, we all are doing it a day at a time.

patton I was were you are now and I got hit everytime I turned around.but life does go on and I turned my life around for my benefit.I found it hard at times but realized I am the only one who can make me happy.Hang in there better days are coming.

things hit me all the time day night and when they do it's soo hard to deal with

Keep Strong x

I can relate. I woke up in the middle of the night a few weeks ago and had to realize the outline of the comforter was not him sleeping beside me. Very painful!

Hi Patton,

So sorry things are starting hit you.

You will get through this and you will experience waves of sorrow and sadness. It's okay to cry. I did for many months.

Let it out and don't try to bottle your feelings inside. You will get to the other side much faster if you allow yourself to feel your feelings of sorrow, yearning and loneliness.

My thoughts are with you. I know what you are going through.

Hang in there. In a year you will look back on this as a period of growth.

I know extactly how you feel. I thought I was doing pretty good. Then the other day at work I had a thought about how our family vacations will be no more. I felt sick to my stomach.

Yeah things hit me every now and then, I get tears in my eyes..then a minute passes and I'm ok.

Hugs patton. I know what you mean.

Unbelpens...I had the same thought last week. I was crying because I realized that we won't be going on any more family vacations together.

There is now way I can go away with just me and the kids alone without someone else to go with. It won't be any fun :(.

Things we used to do together, they are always in my mind, and I miss all the old times, talks, just the everyday things of life I guess. Each new day I think of something else and feel like I have been hit by a truck..I know it will get better someday but God, I wish that day would get here already!! You are in my thoughts! ((hugs))!!

yeah, i feel your pain. I still go through the memories or the what if's...it's hard but I also think about all the pain he caused me and the kids. I wish I could have a complete family again but at what cost? nothing is free and it's always a compromise to make things work. I am better off on my own with the kids than to be with someone who has already thrown us aside more than once. Good luck to you..

Hugs to you Patton. I definately know how you feel. It's been 6 months for me and it still feels raw and fresh like it's the first day. I know everyone says it gets better, but when?

Hey patton...was in your shoes about a year and a half ago...all's wonderful in my life now...I am totally positive all the time and will never look back again...it takes time my friend...you WILL get through this...just like I and about a zillion others did too. Just have faith in yourself and keep looking forward :0)