*crickets*

yes i am friends with the ex, i am close to his parents...
they are like my own mom and dad, as much as i have been told no contact with the ex, it wll be easir for me to move on, yes this is true, but i do not want to loose the family i have gained thru the relatonship....so
iam frieds wth the ex, we talk, we laugh, we hug, we share, i am a compassionate person, even if it hurts me i am there for the other person, i am moving on, i am going out, and i am meeting new people, i dont sit home and wait for him, i am going out and havin fun...
my ex father in law was in a motorcycle accient and needs lots of help and support so this has pushed my ex and i togethr, we are taking care, hospiital and personal care, as well as his mom, the new gf is not welcomed there, but i love my ex mother in law and she is being clled mom now, all my relatives are deceased....
so that is my story...like it or not, healthy or not, it is what it is, and life is what we make of it, and the people that come into our life are there for a reason....

*more crickets*

Haven't seen nor heard from her in over a year

There is no way I will be friends with the ex, maybe in the future, but I doubt it. He keeps trying to be friends with me.

I used to be friends with all my exes and now I have just let them go and others have let me go cuz it's just healthier that way and its much easier to have a healthy relationship with someone else.

Friends? hmmmmm... not really. Civil? yes.

He was feeding me that line and I was chopping at it until I realized that I was being "friends" because I wanted us to get back together no matter what lies I tried to tell myself, and he was being "friends" for the fringe benefits...clothes washed, meals cooked, apartment cleaned, taxes done, etc. It's impossible to be friends with someone when one person didn't want to go. It's a painful road. He still tries to tell me we are better of "friends" and I've learned not to argue.....just exit quietly. He called last night asking me to look something up on the internet...I told him I wasn't home but I would call him when I got home.....NOT!!! Look your own shit up, wash your own clothes, cook your own damn meals. This is what he doesn't get....HE DECIDED WHAT I WAS OFFERING HIM WAS NOT WHAT HE WANTED....NEWS FLASH YOU DON'T GET TO HAVE IT AND NOT HAVE IT.

Uhhhh, no thank you.

tried at the beginning of the breakup. she wanted nothing to do with me anymore so that was that. not even civil. just nonexistence towards eachother pretty much.

yes...

We share a couple of kids. It's important to remain civil. The kids appreciate it. If you can, it's extremely helpful.

forget it!!!!

I went way outside my hurting/howling soul to give him the olive branch because we have a child with special needs and that little fella deserves peace and not strife.

So, in the spirit of that beloved child, I tolerate my ex, I am civil and have learned to actually wish him the very best that life has to offer.

I have learned that living well is enough for my family dynamic.

Friends with the Ex.

Translation: "I'm leaving. I'm breaking my commitments to you, our partnership, our dreams, our goals, and our family. I am ditching that part of myself that longs to selflessly give of myself for the betterment of others so that our family can be an example to others and flourish in a troubled world. But, I am scared of walking away from you and everything in it that nurtured me. Therefore, I still want to lean on you, cry to you, and take whatever nurturing that I can get out of you. But, I promise nothing so do not count on me to understand your position and your problems. Is it a deal?"