Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am kind of freaking out a bit today. I have been trying not to think of it but not having any luck. My ex was set to get out of jail today. I am praying so hard that he won't contact me because I don't want to deal with him. I know that nothing has changed just because he is out but it is still getting to me somehow, I guess because while he was in there he had limited ways to contact me and now he will be more able to and from a prior letter he sent I got the feeling that he would try. Someone please tell me that I am wrong and remind me that I am in a much better place (than I was when I came here) than freaking out over him.
You know that you are. You deserve better than this man and the craziness he has to offer.
Do NOT let him back into your life.
No friendship, no pals, NADA.
Because life is too short to waste it.
Rman I have considered that actually if he does contact me, but don't know anything about them. Do they cover internet contact or is it just actual physical proximity?
My best advice is to just not answer any of his calls/emails/whatever. Don't change any of your numbers. Just let him call and leave as many messages as he wishes. It will take anywhere from 6 to 8 weeks for him to quit.
And don't get upset by threats. Remember that threats just prove that someone has considered and Rejected thoughts that have come into their mind.
If he starts showing up places that you are, then he's taken it to another level. And you might need that restraining order.
Your free to decide what's best. But this is the advice from the book, The Gift of Fear, by Galvin DeBecker. He's a security consultant for a bunch of police departments, etc, etc.
Paul, no there are no kids involved between the two of us. Thankfully because then I don't have any reason why I would have to see or hear from him.
Just hearing from everyone has made me feel better. I knew I would get better perspective by posting than sitting here worrying.