Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Its been over a year since my breakup and what a hell of a year it was. I wish I would have just slept through the heartbreak and low self esteem.
I dont know when it happened, but I realize now that I have accepted the fact that I am alone (which has been a horrible fear of mine forever) and Im ok with it. Im so fortunate to have a good job and a good car and a house over my head, family and friends. so many other things. You dont need to have a man around to feel whole. I just now get it!!!! To be honest, now that I have been doing what I want when I want it, I kind of like it.
I find that today I think of my ex and the anxiety isnt there. I dont like thinking of him with another woman, but the pain is gone. I dont cry when i get in depth of the thought of him. I never ever thought I would get to this point.
Even though I tried the Online thing, I dont think I was mentally ready for it. I think it is time now to put myself out there with a positive attitude and start dating. It may be tough, we will see, but atleast at this point, I know I dont need to depend on a man for happiness. They can just add to what it is I am building inside.
It took over a year to get here, but now I know my life can move forward.
For all you that are just starting the journey of heartbreak, I know you've heard it a million times, but I think time heals all wounds. They may never completely go away, but it does get better. Also, no one know how long it will take to get past it because everyone is different. All I can say is work on yourself in the process and one day you will wake up a feel a little more free.
I dont know when it happened, but I realize now that I have accepted the fact that I am alone (which has been a horrible fear of mine forever) and Im ok with it. Im so fortunate to have a good job and a good car and a house over my head, family and friends. so many other things. You dont need to have a man around to feel whole. I just now get it!!!! To be honest, now that I have been doing what I want when I want it, I kind of like it.
I find that today I think of my ex and the anxiety isnt there. I dont like thinking of him with another woman, but the pain is gone. I dont cry when i get in depth of the thought of him. I never ever thought I would get to this point.
Even though I tried the Online thing, I dont think I was mentally ready for it. I think it is time now to put myself out there with a positive attitude and start dating. It may be tough, we will see, but atleast at this point, I know I dont need to depend on a man for happiness. They can just add to what it is I am building inside.
It took over a year to get here, but now I know my life can move forward.
For all you that are just starting the journey of heartbreak, I know you've heard it a million times, but I think time heals all wounds. They may never completely go away, but it does get better. Also, no one know how long it will take to get past it because everyone is different. All I can say is work on yourself in the process and one day you will wake up a feel a little more free.
I get the anxiety as well. I had no idea how much I was consumed. My chest would hurt at times, and I wouldn't even realize why. I had no idea the pressure until I got out from under it. For the longest I had a hard time mentally feeling that I still had to follow "his rules" even though we were separated.
Yes, he is gone but so are his mind games. For the FIRST time in my life since high school I am alone, but NOT lonely. It's refreshing. I don't want to be by myself, but I honestly think I would rather have my freedom.
Good luck to you on putting yourself back out there. Your post proves that one can get past a divorce...it just takes time.
And his constant need to be in control. We still interact on paper
And he comes and goes in the house when i am not there. I
Text him if i need to tell him something quicker.
He has not faced me in a month.i dont know how i will do at
Court when we go before the judge. I will have my lawyer with
Me. But i still cry at the drop of a hat.
big huge hugs for you. this is what we are all striving for, and i am SO glad you are there! thanks for sharing!
:D