It is very empowering to do something that is sad & difficult. I have since learned that until we close that door (as sad and as hard as it is to do), new healthier doors will not open.

The longer we were married, the longer it takes to grieve and heal. Many experts say it takes 1-2 yrs for every 5-7 yrs in the relationship. So allow yourself as much time as you need. Grief is not linear. The best advice I can offer is to honor the feelings w/o judgment as they arise (instead of stuffing them).

~healing hugs!

I'm so happy for you you had to go through a lot to get to this point . We signed our divorce decree yesterday , and although it is not over yet I understand the relief you feel .

I'm sorry for your pain. My ex H was the one to asked for a divorce and I didn't want to accept it. A year later I was the one that decided that I was tired of fighting and finally decided to go forward. It was such a relieved, I didn't have to worry about where he was at, who he was talking to or if he was to the OW.
It was sad and I cried but at the same time it was empowering when I started making decisions on my life.
Stay strong.

Glad to hear you are finding some peace!!

Thank you everyone....what a horrendous and torturous journey it has been to get to this point..

being proactive has certainly helped me and i believe important to help in my greiving process

It does feel weird ....to put the fininshing nails in the coffin and start to bury our love and life

I am the one who has been suffering endlessly while she has merrily lived her happy life

She said she felt relief on leaving me....Well now it's my turn

I feel RELIEF to get this business done and file the divorce, that she wanted so bad ....yet wouldn't do

I am also in a very happy relationship with a loving supportive woman who loves me to bits for who I am...and does not want to change me