Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm fighting the urge to throw my ex's cheating back in her face. Its a battle I fight and lose occasionally on a daily basis.
Our nine year marriage did not end well. We have two children in the mix.
For two ugly years I was alternately pushed out, brought back in, cut out again, told she was in love with me, cheated on at the same time those words were spoken...etc. I thought we were trying to piece our family back together even if it meant we would live separate lives.
I saw too much. It hurts me to this day. She is mostly ambivalent about what she did and I realize the words "I'm sorry" have never been spoken.
I guess I look for some kind of regret from her. Some kind of reaction. Since she does not to seem to see the irreparable damage she did to our family, I, in a way have taken it upon my self to remind her of the ugliness she sowed.
Our nine year marriage did not end well. We have two children in the mix.
For two ugly years I was alternately pushed out, brought back in, cut out again, told she was in love with me, cheated on at the same time those words were spoken...etc. I thought we were trying to piece our family back together even if it meant we would live separate lives.
I saw too much. It hurts me to this day. She is mostly ambivalent about what she did and I realize the words "I'm sorry" have never been spoken.
I guess I look for some kind of regret from her. Some kind of reaction. Since she does not to seem to see the irreparable damage she did to our family, I, in a way have taken it upon my self to remind her of the ugliness she sowed.
If you retaliate, fight back or whatever, in a way, they still win because you are letting them control what you think and do.
You have won the war and are healing from all the pain they have caused when you come to a point where you just don't care anymore, what they do or say, and you get on making your own life as positive as possible, and as fun as possible, never even letting the ex have any power over your mind. It does take time and practice, and in the end Karma seems to always come back and bite them, even if it wasn't you. They seem to treat everyone bad.
I have the experience that it makes a few people crazy mad if they think you don't care.