What should you do? Find the strength to move forward. Are you in counciling? If not I would suggest you give it a try. Your life is not ruined, it just feels that way right now. You have two choices, you can sit around and feel sorry for yourself and ruminate over the past or you can take control of your life, decide to be happy and a survivor and move forward. Your happiness is completely in your hands and no one else's.

I would also suggest that you not waste your energy on wishing bad things for your ex and his mistress...it is doing nothing to them, all it is doing is hurting you! Stop blaming her for what happened! My ex had many mistresses I don't blame a single one of them. If he was a honest, loving husband then there would have been nothing they could have done to tempt him. His affairs are his fault...due to his shortcoming, insecurities and addictions.

I'm sorry you are going through this! I know how hard it is but you can find the strength to move forward and live a wonderful life!

Hugs to you and Merry Christmas!

Jada, meyers, twiggy123, and peppe123,
All you ever wanted--for years and years was too get rid of your husband. Now you have and you should be happy, but if you spend all of your time thinking about him and everything he has done to you you can never move on to any happiness or peace at all. It will also totally ruin your health.
Someone once said that to hate and be full of bitterness is the same thing as to drink a glass of poison and expect the other person to die.
I really hope after all these years you will be able to let it go and just think about what you can do instead of what you can't do.
Good luck

I know a Senior who does online dating and it works for her. Your life is not ruined. He does not have that much power over you. You have power over your own life. I agree with the other posters here. Make this an opportunity and don't waste your time and energy on hoping for revenge. It will only make into a bitter person in the end. Find joy in life.

Hi all, I just joined the group today. I would like to be share my thoughts and stories. I would like to meet new ppl who have same experience with Divorce. My name Sammy. 29 years old. I feel the same way. I feel very depressed. I feel like I was hit by a hurricane. Any recommendation what to do please ?

I went to nursing school.

I know someone else who became a bar regular (also a senior), she always drank diet coke (with nothing else). Didn't take long for people to learn her name, and it was a nice outlet.

Everyone pretty much finds their own path. I kept repeating to myself, "It's MY life now.".......and many years later....that's exactly what I've made it. My life is nothing special......I'm betting my ex would find it boring....but I LOVE it.