Yes, that's common. I felt like I was having an outer-body experience, that I was looking down on myself and other people, but not actually participating in what I was saying. I was watching myself, but it was so unreal it was like I was watching someone else playing the role of me. You will slowly get used to the new reality, and this wierdness will dissolve. I think you're in auto-pilot mode.

Strong--I agree with jojo. When my husband and I first split, it was like what JoJo just explained. I did not tell anyone for the longest time because like you mentioned, it felt so unreal that it was happening to me. I have just now only gotten to the point where I am actually able to explain my situation without crying. It has taken me a long time to get here, I am by no means healed and not even sure if I will ever be 100 percent. However, I am better than I was. I have taken this experience as a lesson in my life and am learning from it. I believe in time you will get to that point, hang in there! Hugs!

Ye I experiencing the Same thing. It feels like a bad dream. My ex wife says that she want the best for me but she seem intent on detroying me.
This would be ok if I was a alcoholic drug user wife slapping ex husband but I'm not. I tired my hardest. I cooked cleaned and constantly reminder how amazing she was. I have tried to find fault in how I was is this marraige.

This makes no scense to me

I felt all alone in groups too, even with my family.

It felt like a big cloud of my grief and aloneness
Followed me with all my misery. I felt so out Of it
and Just plain disconnected. So many strong
feelings and emotions Of rejection, hurt and pain.

Betrayal usually will come a little later on and if
You have abandonment issues therapy helps.

First you need to move thru the divorce which is
awful. To me it was Something to just survive with
your Sanity and hopefully with your Lawyer watching
your Back and watching out for you financially.

That whole part was like a haze and surreal and i
Could not believe we were really getting a divorce
HUGS

Hugs. I understand. Its been 3 years and I am just now accepting that this is my life for now. God bless.

Auto pilot explains it perfectly . Just fo8nf through the motions not feeling anything

I've been there. It gets better. At first it seemed unreal, I could not believe it was happening. Time and no contact helped me realize how blind I was to the situation. I was agonizing over someone that had checked out of the marriage and already moved on herself. So I moved on. Joined a divorce group and got the help I needed to put myself together. I suggest therapy and joining a divorce group. It will help. You will get there. Sorry you have to be going through this. Stay strong
-HUGS-

For some time it seemed so difficult to accept that a person I spent 28 years with (married 26 years) could do what he did. This person who I was so intimate with for so long, did these things. This person that I had two children with, was so deceptive! I slept next to this person for many years.
I went on vacations with and spent every holiday with this person. This person begged for forgiveness and jumped through so many hoops. How is it possible that this is happening? --6 years out, and life is great. Hang in there!

I know that feeling. I feel the same. My ex and I can't accept each other, after 3 and a half years. It kills me even if we still love each other. He told me he wasn't in love. Then he calls me crying, and said how it's hurtful to not be together. But we need to grow. I'm in counselling now

@Strong4me2017
Yes I've felt the same. Its something you will never understand. Forgive them and don't allow bitterness to build in your heart. Praying for you.

You are not the one who is empty. He obviously was the way he was because HE was empty inside. Devoid of love, respect or faithfulness. People who are like that always end up filling those holes inside themselves with sex, alchohol, drugs etc... and they will never find happiness or fulfillment in them. Be thankful for who you are inside and let those things lift you up and free your mind and your aching soul.

You are definitely NOT alone. Hugs

Stay strong and minimize contacts and find ways to nurture your soul. I don't want to say it is normal, as love should bring joy and not pain. But the realty is until you find the stength to close the chapter it will continue to hurt.

But loss, confusion, emptyness, numbness, and just when I start feeling relived accepting the loss, memories are somehow triggered and are faced with another cycle of missouri but with each cycle getting stronger to cope with it better.