Don't really have any good advice for you...normally, I wouldn't recommend seeking an explanation, but, in your case, "a new life" as an explanation is beyond weak. Been together since you were 15, married 3 short years, and out of the blue, he quits and wants a "new life." I'm sorry for your pain. I wish I had better advice.

When my X talked with me out of the blue about divorce after 25 years together, I felt I had failed. He told me I was unlovable and I believed him. But the truth tends to come out sooner or later. He had found an online love. We got divorced and I guess you can say we each took on "new lives". You will survive this and be stronger for it. You were so young when you married, give yourself time to discover who "you" want to be. It will be a journey but one that will make you happier in the long run.

I'm just scared, I've never been on my own. We've been living together with joint finances since I was 18. He makes 2.5 times what I do but is fighting me on giving me anything. He told me that "divorce means you never have anything to do with each other again" it's like he thought he would say he wants a divorce and I would go poof and disappear. I tried asking him why and he won't tell me. Although he did say he would tell me a couple things if I helped him fill out the paperwork (I handled all of the finances and budgeting, he said he didn't even know our wedding date!)

Wow I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Since he makes more than you, I don't see why you would not get spousal support if you do unfortunatly get divorced. I hope things get better for you. Do you have any children?

Thank you, I do not have any children. I will be moving in to an apartment in a month and I don't know what im going to do all on my own

I know how you are feeling. Although I have not been married as long as you, I too am going through a seperation while pregnant (husband also left) It will take alot of time to move on, I am still trying to move on. I've been sperated almost a mth and a half. I've been told it will get easier in time. I pray that everyhing works out :)

I hope it does because right now I feel like I'm dying. We have to live together until my apartment is ready and he won't speak to me or acknowledge me. He only texts me about separation of property

I would get a good lawyer and get your fair share.
Are you going to a therapist ? they help during this
Time. HUGS

No I don't think my insurance covers it, I have an appointment with an attorney on Thursday

I didnt get married until I was 26 (not that it matters) and was married to my first husband for 16 years. We had a nice home, I worked part time, we have two children, our life was set I thought. I did everything for my family, was the proverbial soccer mom. Well it all fell apart one day when he decided he needed a new life. I lost my home, my kids went to live with him because I had nowhere to live and couldnt provide for them, I lost everything. I went into a tail spin and basically had a nervous breakdown. Why am I telling you this? Well because it took some time but I did recover. I found love again, I rebuilt my life and I moved on (its all falling apart now but thats another story for another day). Get a good lawyer, find a good therapist or support group, take care of yourself, do not self medicate, eat properly and get as much sleep as you can (I know its hard but it helps) and whatever you do stay away from rebound relationships. I know you are lonely but just do not do it because it will mke your life more complicated and difficult. Idk where you are from but most states and Canada have equalization when it comes to divorce so he will most likely have to help you out in some way with spousal support. You will be lonely and it will take some time to being without him but you will get through this. You are mourning your relationship and its a process. Take the time to feel the feelings you are feeling but make sure you build a life for yourself in the process. I hope you find some peace soon.

Thank you for telling me this, I've been feeling like there's no hope and I'll feel this way forever. I'm in California and I think they're a no fault 50-50 state. I just feel so worthless

Glad you have a lawyer divorce care.org is a great
Program or a grief support group, sometimes low
Cost therapist are available womens aid/ shelter.
My insurance has 40 co pay. I go to alanon too keep
Reaching out to good healthy loving supportive
people. HUGS

Unfortunately there aren't any groups in my area but my coworker does benefits so I can ask her about the insurance tomorrow.

I find myself being stupid though and texting him begging him to try and work it out. He's not interested

If he is a checked out spouse it does no good.

Your stbx sounds like my ex all business, only
About divorce and assets. My ex had a GF all
Waiting in the wings. HUGS