I'm sorry you feel this way, but these days will happen. Unfortunately you just have to live through them...live through the negative emotions...feel them and then let them go. Don't ever forget to LET THEM GO! Tomorrow will be better. We've all been there...many times over. You're not alone!

I agree. Just know that it will get better. It takes time. You're having a low right now. It happens. As time goes on they will shorten in duration and won't happen as often. It's a process you have to go through. Just keep doing things for yourself that make you happy. Have to retrain your brain to learn to be happy on your own. It's still better than what you lived through. Just keep reminding yourself of that.

There IS a light at the end of the tunnel......keep working at it and you will be seeing it one day soon. You deserve so much better than what you have been given, and deep down inside I think you know that too.

I am lonely as well at night and I want something more but it has to be after I get past what I am feeling right now. Take the time to feel your feelings, heal, and then look forward to a man that will treat you like you should be. It will happen....have faith.

Also, I'm not sure if you're feeling lonely for him or just lonely in general, but I know every time I start to think about the fact that I'm not with him anymore, I start to think about what I would be thinking and feeling in that very moment if he was with me. The truth is, he'd be ignoring me, rejecting me, possibly yelling at me and making me feel horrible about myself. Once I think of that, I'm not feeling so lonely anymore. HUGS

Wiggywango hit the nail on the head there! You weren't happy before. Your not happy now either but at least you put him to pasture.
Join some local organizations. Volunteer at a hospital. Get yourself out of your four walls. My first outing without him will be on Sunday. Going to meet a group of gals all similar to my age group. They get together and do different activities as a group. Whether everyone comes or two. I'm looking forward to it. Get something else on your mind. Stand tough. You can go this for you, it's important.

I am sorry you are struggling with this.

You loved yourself enough to get out of that relationship. That was huge. You loved yourself enough to protect yourself from him. Again, that was not something minimal. Love yourself now. Treat yourself as you would treat a loved one who was hurting. Shift your focus to things which make you happy. Do things which make you feel good. I know that it isn't the warm time of year but is there any place outdoors you really enjoy? Get out there and feel the sun on your face. Certain picture, TV shows or movies. Foods, activities. Whatever you can think of in a good light, hold that close.

Keep on loving yourself and you will find hope returns...

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I'm in the U.S. and did a simple search and found organizations in the U.K. to help women with domestic abuse. I also found a help line that you can call just to talk to.

Start researching yourself and find them.

There's already lots of great advice here. Please go easy on yourself and keep loving yourself. Blue was quite right that you loved yourself enough to get out of the relationship and to stay out, to keep in contact with the police.

It's much harder to heal and make progress when you keep seeing your ex, for whatever reason. I know it often feels like you're not getting anywhere, when he keeps showing up and knocking you back down on all the progress you've made. But go back and read some of your earlier stuff that you posted here, then read the more recent stuff. You really are progressing and you've gotten a lot stronger. Keep on plugging away, stay strong and keep loving yourself. Focus on anything and everything positive that you can find, no matter how small.

I understand how you feel. I just found out the man my soon to be ex had an affair with is now living with her and interacting with my kids. I am going through the exact same emotions, loneliness, worthlessness, lots of anger but you have to fight- I'm not going to let them win and get the best of me. You need to do the same.

Needafriend, come here, big squeeze. I know nights suck, and you can't focus or think, you don't feel like yourself. Add the depression and everything becomes heavy and overwhelming. We all understand, a lot of us are there now with you. Your not alone I promise. What helps you smile when your down? What makes you feel a little alive again? Push yourself, do the things that get through each day, and also the little extras that make you feel human. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx. Hang in there. There is light, an end to this, and hope for the future, I promise.

Wiggy, amen. Debra, have a great time Sunday! So excited for you! You have to tell us how it went after. Blue, very well said.