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Falling Apart

sonap
sonap

I woke up this morning barely holding on to myself. My ex and I were trying to mend our broken relationship. We went out to eat the other day and I got emotional after having few drinks about all the pain that I have gone through when he walk out our engagement. I started crying and he got upset and left me in the middle of the street in the car. I keep calling him and shut his phone off. I was tipsy and couldn't figure out my way of the city but I still keep calling him and he didn't answer me. It's been two days now and I left him so many messages and I email me explaining my fear and pain and I apologize thousands of times. Even one of my friend try to reach out to him and he never answered. I am scared and I feel stupid to have lost him again. I can barely eat or move out of bed. I found this chat room and I can barely talk about him. All I want to do is cry my heart out to the universe for taking him away from me. 

trulycommitted
trulycommitted
If you are young, I would suggest telling your parents or another older member of the family who you are closer to about how you are feeling. If you are older, tell someone whose opinion you respect – a friend, a church pastor, a relative. It would also be really good to talk to your doctor about how you feel.

Distract yourself with things that make you happy, within reason, of course. Depression and anxiety don’t generally go away on their own. It is good to take positive action and employ vigilance to make that happen. Praying peace of mind for you! Hang in there.
WithPainComesStrength
WithPainComesStrength
Sorry that he treated you badly. You deserve better.
KaleidoscopePictures
KaleidoscopePictures
I am sorry you are going through this pain. It really hurts when the one we love does not return the feelings, but you can make it through this. You had a life before him, and just because one person has moved on, that does not lessen your worth in any way. I encourage you to seek counseling . When my husband left me and our two sons, I started into counseling, and it helped so much. When we get so deeply emotionally involved, it can be hard to step back and get perspective. I love what one counselor said. It was so profound. She said, "Never have as your foundation anything that can be taken from you." He is just one person, and he does not determine your value.
Aronia
Aronia
Let things settle down a little.. don’t contact him. He will come around when he is ready.
I know it is so hard, but time will heal all.
Kimmer
Kimmer
Hey girl. I'm going through the same thing..its overwhrlming... it's making me sick. Any news?
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Ask yourself why did yall break up.
Work on yourself, we all have room to improve.
If you were the main cause of the break up, improve yourself and heal.
That relationship is over... Heal yourself.
Make an effort to learn and make your next relationship awesome.