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tf17
tf17

Sooooo I don’t want to type it all out right now. Basically I found some stuff out about my ex. And we talked tonight and ended with me sobbing, shaking, getting sick, and wanting to cut. I havent for like 2 years. But right now it’s all I want to do. Idk.

KelleyPaterson
KelleyPaterson
I’m sorry that you are in so much pain.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Why did you talk to them?
gdennis
gdennis
Don't do it....You are better than that! Better than him!! You are so young and have so much good ahead of you, one day you will look back and say "what was I thinking". There is good out there and it never seems we can find it but you will and when you do.....you won't even bat an eye.....
Lavender80
Lavender80
Hurting yourself is not going to hurt him. If you need to relieve the anxiety, do something physical like punch your pillow, go for a hard run/walk, talk it out, or write it out.

Too many of us punish ourselves for others bad behaviors. Take care of yourself and protect yourself, and let his actions reflect on him...not you.

Sending you light and love. :)
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs my friend, Why are you even acknowledging his existence. Please be gentle with yourself. You deserve so much better. All they want is to keep us under their thumb. If you hear from him again, ignore him, he is not worth it. Or just say, "that's nice" instead of F off. I drove my ex batty with that and then I would just smile, turn around and walk away. Head held up high, smiling from ear to ear and giggling like a school girl. That would bother them so much more than anything we could say or do. It has been 12 years since the divorce and I still feel like crowning him with a 2x4. But I do not advise that. Takes too much energy. hehehehe
justjackie28
justjackie28
I’m so sorry you are hurting ... I know that pin is unbearable ... if you need a friend or just someone to listen I’m here
LaPetiteGen
LaPetiteGen
I'm sorry you are hurting. I know the pain is real and it sounds like you are struggling with how to deal with everything. I think you already know that reverting to destructive habits won't change or solve anything- just maybe bring you one second of relief. Please try to distract yourself with something more positive that can actually HELP you rather than HURT YOU. Is there something you've find in the past that has helped- go there instead! Praying you find a positive way to deal with your pain.
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