Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Wesleymon1 07/08/2017

As long as I could remember my heart had always been set on finding someone, anyone who would love me. Someone who would love and accept me as I am. In January I had finally had her, the perfect girl. What I've always wanted. We never fought, and for the most part, it was perfect. We spent 4 months together. Then out of nowhere, she said that she was stressed. She said she didn't have the motivation for a relationship. I had never dealt with this before. So naturally, I begged her. After I realized I wouldn't convince her to keep going, I promised her I would wait for her to be ready, but until then i would be her friend. At first it was fine and we talked. But eventually she started acting like i was a stranger. She started ignoring me, and eventually blocked me on everything I could talk to her on. I can't do anything without thinking of her. I can't even sleep it away. I have considered suicide multiple times. I just don't know how to handle this. She's the only thing to ever make me happy.

ElizabethM 07/08/2017

I am sorry for your pain. This is a temporary feeling...do not commit a permanent act for something that will get better.

She is not the girl you thought she was and you're missing the person that never really existed. I can keep trying to convince you that you're going to be okay again, but really it's time that is the biggest healer.

Another person can only help us to be happy on a temporary basis. We are responsible for our own happiness. You will eventually find the right woman for you and look back on this time in your life and thank God you're no longer with her. I promise you this!!

I was with my ex for 28 years and the only regret I have is sharing our adult kids. Once clarity arrived and I saw him for who he was/is I no longer wanted him. I never missed him. And eventually, you will feel this way too.

Hang in there, it does get better!!

Ghostdancer 07/08/2017

I'm still at that waiting for it to get better too but I do know it will happen. I've no timeline on when that will occur but I'm ok with working on me a bit longer. Don't cheat yourself and spoil the ending by skipping chapters and going right to the end give yourself a chance. Who knows what's on the pages you skim past, you just might miss instructions to find your treasure.

kbbcoop77 07/08/2017

4 months? And thinking suicide??? Dude cmon man. Breakups are a part of life. Work on yourself so one person won't define your happiness. How old are you? Women will come and go. My wife left me after 24 years. Damn right it hurt, but I ain't offing myself over someone else's choices. We only get one life. Block her everywhere and heal. It won't take that long if you do the work

mjc522 07/08/2017

Hey bro, I get it I'm in the same boat. I thought the girl I was with was my soulmate. I was looking at rings and planning on how I was going to propose to her. And then all of her lies came out and I found out that she had cheated on me. I was devistated and am still trying to get past it. But Ive decided to use this time to better myself. My advice is go find something that you love and just dive into it, make your world revolve around it and you'll feel better because you won't have time to think about her. Don't contact her and block and delete her on ALL social media. If she tries to contact you ignore her if you can't ignore her keep her at arms distance. Make a list of all of her bad qualities and the things that she did to wrong you. Then make a list of all of the things that you want to gain in your next relationship. It works trust me. Don't give up the fight your not alone.

refurb 07/08/2017

happiness & sadness come and go like the weather
contentment comes from inside, define the values you respect, live your live in alignment with such that is what makes for a contented adult.

refurb 07/08/2017

opps hit send too early,
once you are doing above, when you date be honest about who you are, accept no less from the person that you get into a relationship with, you'll both be happy with each other in that you can trust them to be who they represent themselves to be, you can each live with the others failings, because we all fall short sometimes, it is in how we ourselves, deal with & address the fallings

Husband 07/09/2017

I've been there. What everyone is saying is true. She wasn't the right one. Almost 3 years ago I had a breakup and at 42 I got some therapy. Hell I figured maybe I was just meant to be alone. Then I met my wife. We've been married now for almost 2 years and I'm so glad that other women dumped me or I might have missed meeting my wife. Your future wife is worth waiting for. Don't give up and don't look for her. I walked into a friend's house and my future was in the living room.

jojored 07/09/2017

First love can feel so crippling when it's over. When you're young, you think it's the end of the world. Trust the other people here who say you need to be happy with who you are first. Be responsible for your own happiness, then you won't feel the need to invest your entire self into one other person.

KTs 07/10/2017

I am so sorry for what you're going through. I have something similar and don't know how to continue with my life. The only tool I have found is sleeping but usually I have to take sleeping aid to do that.... I wish so badly I had tools for you. When people tell me it gets better, I get mad because that doesn't help at all. I've taken to watching mystery television and trying to reach out to any friends I can find. I don't know you but I'm sending all my love to you.

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