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EX wants FWB

AlanHarper
AlanHarper
This woman is driving me crazy. She wants divorce which will be final Feb 18, says she can't stand to live with me anymore, but wants to be friends with benefits because she is afraid of being alone.

what do you think??
refurb
refurb
respect yourself and cut ties with the person that does not respect you
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Usually it's the men whom want this but it's never a good idea. It leaves you two still connected when you both need to move on.
charliegirl29
charliegirl29
It only works if you still want that kind of relationship with her.
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
If you never want to heal and remain stuck with someone who dumped you it's a great idea.
Personally I would pass.
prettymamakitty
prettymamakitty
Coop you always have great advice!!

I tried that with my stbx we did it a couple times since we don't live in the same state it seemed like a good idea. They were both terrific but afterwards you feel horrible and empty and like coop says go for it if you never want to heal.
LostNFound3
LostNFound3
I did it for almost a year after our divorce. In the end, it hurt me even more, and I lost a year that I could have started healing. Based on that experience, I agree with Coop. As tempting as it seems, it holds you back and likely won't lead anywhere good.
funone46
funone46
I would pass too. She will only play your heart strings and give you hope until she finds someone else.

Run as fast as you can the benefits are not worth it.
angelicc
angelicc
It sounds like s









































It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it??? AND WHAT WOULD YOU BE GAINING??? think about it. Guard your heart
milliejay
milliejay
FWB isn't a good ideal for folks who are divorcing. She's afraid of being alone? - she can get a cat. Madness.
murphytoronto
murphytoronto
RUN!!!
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